(Closed) If a better match for you were out there, would you want to know?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If there was someone out there who was a better match for you, would you want to know?
    Yes - If I have a chance to be with my soulmate, I'd want to know so I can find him : (28 votes)
    19 %
    No - I'm happy with my relationship and wouldn't want to know what I was missing : (108 votes)
    73 %
    Other (please explain below) : (12 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Oh goodness. I wouldn’t want to know. I love the hubbernutters and chose him because I thought he was the perfect one for me. I wouldn’t want to think it could be better or have any questions about him.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think there is a better person out there for me. Everything about him is what I need, even the things I don’t like. 

    ETA I don’t think there is such thing as the perfect man because no one is perfect! But he is perfect for ME =)

    Post # 6
    Member
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I wouldn’t want to know. I don’t believe in soulmates and no one is perfect. Even if I came across a guy that SEEMED more perfect for me, I don’t believe there is any way to know that until you’re inside of the relationship. So no, I wouldn’t want to start worrying about a better match out there. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    5797 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    No, I don’t believe in soulmates and I think people create their own unhappiness by looking for the next best thing so I wouldn’t want to open that can of worms. There is probably someone out there better for me but I’ve made the choice to start a life with my Fiance.

    Post # 9
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @cyndistar3: I agree with this. My DH is perfect for me. Neither of us are perfect, but I do think we make an excellent match.

    So, I guess the answer to OP’s question is no.

    Post # 10
    Member
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I am so crazy in love with my Fiance, I don’t believe there is a “better match.” I truly believe he is my soul mate(yes corny but i do believe everyone has someone meant for them), and we were meant to be together . There may be a guy who someone else thinks is more suited to me for whatever reason – but I wouldn’t marry my Fiance if I didn’t think he was “the one” – the ONLY one =)

    Post # 11
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    No, I wouldn’t leave him for someone else.

    Everyone has their positive and negative things.  If someone else excelled in areas Darling Husband didn’t – there’d be other areas they were weaker.

    I think it’s dangerous to make a lifelong commitment to someone else and ‘keep searching’.  

    If you aren’t content in your marriage, you are better off leaving and letting your spouse find someone who wants to be with them vs. staying in it until something seemingly better comes along.

    I also don’t believe there’s ONE person out there.  I think there are lots of people you could be compatible with… the choice is yours to make on who you want to be with and make a life with.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t believe in soul mates (in the traditional sense), so I don’t think there is anyone else out there for me.  I believe that a soul mate is a role you grow into over time as you share experiences and build your life together, not someone that is destined for you before you even meet them.

    Post # 13
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Mrs. Spring: That is really a beautiful sentiment. It made me tear up a little bit…

    Post # 14
    Member
    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Mrs. Spring: That’s exactly how I feel, you put it really nicely 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No I wouldnt want to know. I believe that Darling Husband is the perfect fit for me. He knows me better than anyone else, I can tell him everything, I trust him, I love him and he does the same for me. What more could I ask for??

    Post # 16
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    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t. Even if someone was more “compatible” with me, he wasn’t here when I was looking for a relationship and I think my husband is pretty darn awesome.

    There are probably LOTS of men in the world that I would be compatible with – but I don’t know them and I’ll probably never meet them. I think timing is part of it as well. I think most people have to reach that point where they’re ready to get married and then they find the person they enjoy being in a relationship the most. If they’re not ready for a commitment it doesn’t matter how well matched a couple is, the relationship will probably end.

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