(Closed) If a good friend knew your SO was cheating, would want them to tell you?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I lived through this.  My friend told me.  DO NOT TELL HER.  It is not your business.  You will lose her as a friend.  She needs to figure it out on her own.  

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I know it’s a touchy subject because people end up shooting the messenger. But if it was me I would want my friend to tell me.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would get proof first.   If I had no proof myself, I would get the girls that Had proof of the emails.

you have to be careful when approaching a subject like this.  It may be nothing, maybe the emails or texts were interpreted as “trying to cheat”.

 

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

If it was a good friend, then I would absolutely tell her. I would try and get proof too.

 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Not even a question. A million times yes. It will come out and if it is discovered that you knew then you’ll lose your friend. However if you tell her and she chooses to not believe you to begin with, it will be a rocky ride but just be there for her when the truth finally outs.

 

what a crappy situation!!!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would tell her but I would get as much proof as I possibly could first. Have the other girls send you screen shots of the text’s or emails he sent them and then ask her to meet you for lunch. I would want to know if my husband was acting a fool…

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@MissFemmeFatale:  It had a little something for everyone! 😀

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@badabing88:  If I had first hand knowledge, I would approach him and give him an out to tell his wife first… if he didn’t I would absolutely tell her.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Yes, and I have been there. I got a phone call from a friend that started off with “please, please don’t hate me…” then ended with her telling me that my boyfriend at the time had slept with someone else. I wasn’t mad at her at all, but I immediately called the guy and dumped him.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

OMG you have no choice.  You must tell her.   She’s not some whimp, she deserves to know.  You do realize this could go on for YEARS and god knows what STD’s he’s exposing her to. 

If one of my friends knew my DH was cheating on me and didn’t say anything…. you are not a FRIEND.  

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

so WHEN are you telling her? 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@badabing88:  definitely go tell her he is being inappropriate 

 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee

If my husband had cheated on me and my friend knew, I would want them to tell my husband he neded to tell me or they would. I would want to hear it out of his mouth first.. 

She needs to know. This makes me so sad for her, especially because she is pregnant. Its gonna to crush her world but the truth needs to be told one way or the other.

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