Post # 1
Our officiant is quite expensive ($1,000) and we are not getting married in a church or anything, so the check will be written directly to him.
So….do we tip on top of this?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I looked it up on theknot.com, and an extra tip is usually only expected (in the form of a donation) when the officiant is from a church and not charging you for their time. If the officiant is nondenominational, a tip is optional and is usually $50-$100. But yikes! $1000 for an officiant? Unless he goes above and beyond in an extreme way, I think he’s already been seriously compensated.
Post # 4
I think you should not tip him extra because:
1) You’re not using his church (or any church) for your ceremony.
2) The check goes out to him, not to a religious organization.
3) He’s charging you $1000 already!
Post # 5
I’m not tipping ours, and she’s “only” charging $400. We’re having a civil ceremony and I think that’s plenty for her time, which will probably only total about 3 hours(including travel, ceremony and writing the ceremony script).
Post # 6
The officiant requires pre-marital counseling sessions so it’s a bit pricier (3 sessions at 1.5 hours each). I think if we were members of the congregation, it would likely be cheaper. But we’re not, so $1,000.
Thanks for the advice ladies!