Post # 1
I was talking to people in my office about marriage the other day and one of them said they thought a good pre marriage test is to seriously ask yourself ‘if divorce wasn’t an option would you still marry them? ‘ I was just curious as to how people would answer and what people think of it as a pre marital test…
Post # 2
I would never have gotten married if I actually considered divorce a real option.
Post # 3
cpick: Well we both went into our marriage saying divorce was not an option (essentially this meant saying that we will not break our vows to one another.) This was DH’s second marriage, he entered it very seriously and thought hard about what it was he wanted out of a relationship and in a partner.
Post # 4
Stupid question. Divorce is a (last resort) option and I’m not going to waste time considering a (for me) hypothetical society where it’s not.
I married because I love him and I was (and am) confident it would last. But I can’t see the future and in the extremely unlikely event that he cheats or turns abusive, I’m outta here.
Post # 5
I’ve seen some pretty awful marriages. If divorce wasn’t an option (aka were forced to share a house and finances and decisions with your spouse forever, no matter what) I’d probably never marry anyone. Crazy shit happens. I can’t fathom my husband beating me or a hypothetical future kid, but if he did, I would need the option to be able to leave.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
as a 2nd time bride, I went in to my first marriage with the idea that divorce was not an option. And it wasn’t until I put more value into the well being of my children and my own sanity that I decided I needed to explore that last resort.
It wasn’t a decision I made lightly but no one should be in a bad relationship and you need to value yourself above a piece of paper and broken commitment.
No one gets married planning on a divorce but sometimes you have to make tough choices for the betterment of everyone.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
No. But if divorce wasn’t an option I wouldn’t marry anyone since you never know what can happen.
Post # 8
cpick: I picked stupid, because if divorce wasn’t an option I wouldn’t marry ANYONE. Obv I don’t plan on divorcing FI but still…..
Post # 9
Murder would still be an option though right?
Post # 10
a_day_at_the_fair: Lol my first thought.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC
cpick: Yes, but I wish I had thought about it before I got married the first time. I will keep it in mind for when my kids get married.
Post # 13
If divorce wasn’t an option I never would have married anyone. Shit happens.
Post # 14
Of course- to us divorce isn’t an option. I think considering it as a valid option isn’t taking marriage too seriously. We all love talking about sparkles, and dresses, and flowers on here, but at the end of the day it really is about making a LIFETIME commitment to your partner.
Post # 15
I guess I never really saw divorce as an option, which is why I was so hesitant to get married in the first place. Once I met my husband, I knew we would be together, so not having the option of divorce wasn’t really an issue. Death is the only out for me lol.