Post # 1
My first post! I am new to this and have TONS of questions so any advice on how to keep single topics to each thread for the best responses is welcome.
I just got engaged and am looking for a summer 2013 wedding in Northern California. I am currently leaning towards Lake Tahoe bc people can make a vacation out of it with boating, hiking, fishing, gambling, beaches, horseback riding etc.
I haven’t decided a budget/# of guests yet because I want to see if I can help pay for travel which would cut into costs.
But here is a general question to start: We have good friends in California but all of our family and closest friends (that would be in the wedding if I had a formal one: I call them inner circle) live in two separate states. Because they live in two states and ppl would have to travel anyway we thought we would have it in our home state.
If you were my fam or inner circle and had to travel to my summer wedding, how nice would you want everything to be? I am worried that if they fly all the way out here anyway they would be disappointed if it wasn’t a formal or really nice event/accomodations.
I kind of like the idea of renting a lakeshore house and having a casual full weekend with more people included in bbq like hang-out festivities throughout the few days vs. a formal wedding “day” with a reception to the nines. Would people rather attend the formal wedding day and have more options to do things on their own? I think they could still do things on their own if they wanted to in the more casual option but they also have an option to just hang out, drink, boat, etc at the house we rent. I’m just trying to balance making sure things are affordable for them but still giving them options if this is going to be a vacation for them.
Post # 3
I think hang-out festivities sound like fun! But how do you envision your ceremony and reception going if that’s the way you decide to go? Can you have hang-out festivities and a nice ceremony/reception?
Post # 4
@immanorcalbee: I’m considering a similar idea. Some people are excited about it. Some people may prefer fancier weddings, but if you go a bit more casual that could free up some funds for other things they’d appreciate. And you can still do pretty decor at your reception without it being overly formal, and I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like a good BBQ. In fact, it’s probably a safer bet as a crowd pleaser than a lot of catered dishes.
Maybe you could rent a vacation house near an area with a variety of motels/hotels, restaurants, etc.
Post # 5
I’m considering something similar.
Ceremony at a cute farm owned by an amazing photographer.
Share a cake afterwards then head back to a cabin for relaxing with friends and family. Maybe some games. Wine, food and a bon fire.
Post # 6
We live in OR, FI’s family is in CA while most of mine are in AZ since that is the case we decided on Yosemite National Park for our celebration. We are having a formal affair with family and close friends (hoping to keep it around 100). We also sold the idea by telling everyone it could be a mini vacation for them. I definitely would recommend that you provide a nice dinner for your guests after your ceremony. Happy planning
Post # 7
My cousin got married on Lake Tahoe a few years ago and it was gorgeous! It was very simple and romantic – they had it on the beach part as it was a summer wedding. I think the more casual atmosphere is fun, personally, and theirs was relaxing and laid back. I can’t imagine being upset that I traveled to have fun, ya know? 🙂 I would actually dislike a more formal affair if that meant I couldn’t enjoy the scenery or hang out with the couple a bit.
I also think that it’s more budget friendly, but that doesn’t mean it won’t be amazing and personal. There are TONS of ways to do outdoor DIY and cost effective things to create the atmosphere you want.