(Closed) If Having Weight Loss Surgery Was The Only Way to Conceive, Would You Do It?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: If having weight loss surgery was the only way you could conceive, would you do it?
    Yes : (98 votes)
    84 %
    No : (18 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    1318 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t. I’ve known several family members that have had it done. Two gained all the weight back, plus some. Two have done it within the past year and are miserable. You have to be very careful about what you eat and eat all the time to make sure you get the proper nutrition. You have to lose a massive amount of weight before they will do the surgery. There’s so many follow-up appointments. Two of them experienced nausea and throwing up for months after th surgery. My grandmother has suffered ongoing extreme medical problems years after having her surgery. 

    If you go into it knowing that it is a lifestyle change, then maybe you can have a better experience. The problem is that your stomach stretches back out if you do not continue to portion control and you’ll be back to your old ways (not specifically you, but you get what I mean). You sound like you have a handle on what it may take, but research it. It is not easy and if you don’t follow all of the precautions, it is all for nothing. 

    ETA: I also know it wouldn’t work for me. I have a love affair with food that isn’t entirely emotional. I enjoy eating what I eat and would rather be a little chubby than to give it all up (don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely more than a little chubby!). I’m also a terrible sick person and get super whiny, so my family wouldn’t appreciate that. 

    Post # 4
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I guess my question is – if you have truly been following the calorie restricted healthy diet prescribed by your doctor and you haven’t lost weight…how does weight loss surgery help? Isn’t that just restricting the amount of food which you take in, which in theory, you already are doing?

    I would consider the surgery if that was the only way to a successful pregnancy, sure – but i’d also be concerned about the long term effects of weight rebound, which happens in so many people with the surgery. Would it impact your life span at all with regards to being there for your child well into late life?

    Post # 6
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @WhenTheGoingGetsTough:  First off, I know that when you have PCOS it is extremely difficult to lose weight.  Like near impossible. 

    I am by no means an expert, but I don’t think surgery is the only answer to helping you lose weight.   Have you heard of metforin (sp)?  I don’t know much about it, but I do know that it helps those with PCOS lose weight and in turn regulate their cycles.  Before you jump the gun and go for the surgery, I would recommend researching all your options. 

    I definitely don’t think you should give up on your dreams of having your own children and family if that’s what you want to do.  Good luck!

    Post # 7
    2905 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I probably would. I’m also overweight and have PCOS, and am currently trying to lose weight to get ready to TTC next year. I’m down 35 lbs from June, but I’m still nowhere near a healthy weight. I’m hoping that I can get there on my own, but if not, I’d definitely consider WLS. 

    I have two relatives who had bariatric surgery. (Not sure if it was the lap band or something else… this was maybe 10 years ago.) One of them lost a lot of weight very fast, but put it all back on over the last five years. The other one got very thin, gained a bit of weight back but then stabilized at what I guess I’d call slightly chubby. I think the difference was that the second relative made lifestyle changes and was able to get at the root of her emotional eating issues better than the first relative. And since it sounds like you’ve got that part down, I don’t know that WLS would run the same risk of rebound for you as it does for many folks who have it. 

    But research it carefully – there are a lot of risks and a lot of almost guaranteed discomfort after the surgery. You’ll also have to be very careful about what you eat during pregnancy to make sure your baby gets enough nutrition – and I think they suggest delaying TTC until 18 months after your surgery. But then again, there are risks involved with carrying a baby while you’re significantly overweight, too, like the heightened risk of gestational diabetes and much higher chance of having to deliver via c-section. So I guess it’s just a question of weighing all the risks and making whatever you think is the best decision for yourself. I wish you lots of luck!

    Post # 10
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    My cousin had the same issues. They told her that she would NEVER be able to have a baby again and she had a cyst on her ovaries not too long ago that was removed. In the end the Dr told her she would not be able to have a baby again and prior to the cyst he said the only chance was weight loss surgery.

    She had already committed to the surgery prior to hearing about the cyst as she already has one daughter and felt it would make her more healthy for her daughter as is. Needless to say less than a year ago she had the surgery and lost 100+ lbs already! OH and guess what?!?! We found out she is PREGANT again in August (and she had been trying for YEARS)!

    Post # 11
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @WhenTheGoingGetsTough:  Hi there. I am not sure if you have looked into this but there has been a lot of success in the UK for people to have gastric band hypnotherapy. Essentially you would be hypnotized into thinking you had gastic band surgery. It might be worth a try before surgery. I know it sounds crazy but it really can work. My Darling Husband had it for an unrelated condition and it worked wonders. 

    I wish you the best of luck and hope your dreams of having a little one comes true.  

    Post # 12
    1059 posts
    Bumble bee

    I came across this awhile ago and thought you might find it useful:

    I Will Never Go Back to the Broken Conventional Wisdom of My Past

    Not ttc, but if I were I would not have weight loss surgery, but that’s probably because I think the conventional food pyramid is crap and doesn’t work for everyone – I’d just change what I ate (and not in a switching from regular pasta to whole wheat pasta and cutting out fat kinda way).

    Hope this helps, and good luck!

    Post # 13
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @WhenTheGoingGetsTough:  I hope this doesn’t come across as insensitive but would you consider adoption?  I know some women who dream of having children and carrying the baby is a important part of that process and some women who just want children and adopting is not a problem.  If you are uncertain about having the surgery, maybe the thing to consider is the alternative on how to have children (either through child birth or adoption) instead of changing your body.

    Post # 14
    3059 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I honestly thought about this long and hard before TTC. I have been diagnosed with PCOS for over 10 years and I knew the only way to get pregant was to loose weight. However, I limited my carb intake and have stuck to my diet since April and have lost 40lbs.

    I understand you have done everything possible to loose the weight and I’m so sorry and sad for you that it’s just not coming off. You are doing far more excersise than I could even imagine and I commend you for that, especially for not giving up after the scales haven’t moved.

    I say, yes, go for it! Of course, if it’s what you want to do. Who are we to tell you weather you should or shouldn’t get the surgery. We all go through different lengths to acheive our goals – reglardless of what they are. And for you, this surgery would hopefully bring you two – weight loss and bundle of joy!

    Wishing you all the best! Please keep us updated on your decision. Good luck!

    Post # 15
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If I were you, I would get a second opinion from another doctor. If they are also supporting the idea of the surgery I would go for it. It sounds like you’ve tried everything else, so something so drastic might be the next step. Good luck to you!!!

    Post # 16
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m not currently TTC but I have had bariatric surgery. I had endometrial hyperplasia, which caused heavy cramping periods and my cycles were out of whack due to my BMI.  My OBGYN told me that if I didn’t get my weight under control that I would likely have a hard time conceiving and or keeping the pregnancy.

    I could not imagine not being a mother, I went to the classes that Kaiser provided so I could get informed. I made my decision that this was the best choice for me as dieting and exercising only got me so far.  The process of reaching the 10% weightloss required for Kaiser was a year long process for me as I was on medications with a side effect that make you hungry all the time, which was keeping my hyperplasia in check.

    In January of 2012 I had vertical sleeve gastrectomy or VSG, I told myself I’m young and I don’t want to live with the issues that come along with RNY/gastric bypass for me for the rest of my life. and the band just seemed to high maintenance, VSG was my option over the LAP Band as well.  All I can say is that I would do this surgery a million times over, my cycles are regular, my periods are lighter, cramping is almost nill and I feel good about myself, I take estrogen fee NORA-B as my BC and it’s working great, I have more energy. Just know that surgery is not a fix-all, it’s a tool and you must be committed to a life change, you should probably go to a counselor for your emotional eatting issues as a transfer addiction is a reality in the bariatric world.

    My best rescource and inspiration was the VSG forum on http://www.Obesityhelp.com, you can ask anything and the vets will answer. I also reccomend watching Youtube videos of people documeting their journies, but make sure to watch each type of surgery i.e. VSG, RNY, LAP Band and even the duodenal switch.

    If you decide to have children after bariatric surgery just know that there is no real risk to the baby as far as not consuming enough calories, you really only need to take in about 300 extra calories that what your bariatric surgeon set for you which will typically be 1000 to 1200 calories a day during maintenance. I’ve seen lots of pregnancies and babies born to people on the forums who’ve had a similar fight as you and I.

    I wish you luck with any decision you make.

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