- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
(I sincerely hope this is the best board for this question, please let me know if it would be more appropriate elsewhere. I am really looking for support and opinions, not a diet plan so please bare with me as this has the potential to be LONG)
I have struggled with my weight as long as I can remember being alive. Many years of making the wrong choices and emotional eating got me to the point where I am currently a 350lb young woman approaching 30.
Over the last four years I have completely overhauled my lifestyle. I eat a very healthy balanced nutritionist and Dr. approved diet consistently and have tracked every bite for the last 18 months. I trained for and competed in several endurance events in the last year including a 1/2 at my current weight. I walk/run 4x a week for about 3-4 miles and go for 10-12 mile walks on Saturdays. I strength train twice a week and take a circut training class on Wednesday evenings. I feel better than I ever could have imagined and my body is capable of so much more than I ever thought it could be. I am perfectly happy with the way that I look and feel. I have reversed diabetes, lowered my blood pressure, and feel great! The scale however, has barely moved in spite of my best efforts.
I have had menstrual issues and crazy cycles caused by PCOS and the weight throughout this time. A couple of months ago my cycle came back with a serious vengence and despite multiple medication and bcp efforts lasted heavily for over 4 1/2 months and I am still having excessive breakthrough bleeding.
I visited a renowned gynecologist who after evaluating me asked me to come into her office. We talked about my life goals, me getting married and my future. She closed the door, sat next to me, looked me in my eyes and I will never forget what she said:
“Ms WhenTheGoingGetsTough I’m going to give it to you straight. Now that your body is in this pattern we can spend years trying different pharmaceutical solutions; but the fact of the matter is it is all in vain and the problem is your bmi and PCOS symptomns as a result. You are young and I don’t want you to be like the patient I just saw who has been going through counteless fertility treatments that ultimately will never work. She was just like you when she came to see me 7 years ago. Now, she is almost 40 and she will never realize her dream of having a child.”
“I am asking you to take control of your life. You are doing all of the right things through diet, exercise, and endocrinology that can be done and I think you are a perfect candidate for bariatric surgery. Sometimes our body gets so used to being a certain way that it takes a drastic metabolic shift for your nutrition and exercise efforts to pay off and reset your metabolism and endocrine system. In my professional opinion, I honestly believe if you do not do this you will never be a mother.”
She then went on to give me success stories of similar women and gave me a referral to a bariatric surgeon. I have since done a ton of research and been evaluated and have been found to be an ‘ideal’ candidate for surgery and my insurance covers the bulk of the cost. I guess I have written all of this just to say, I know that I have done everything conventional medicine tells you to do to lose weight, live a healthy lifestyle, and take care of yourself and it stings that this could be the only way to have my efforts in the gym and in the kitchen pay off.
I simply cannot imagine my life without being a Mom and living a long healthy life to be there for my fiance, family, and friends. And I feel like if I don’t go through with it, then at this point I am CHOOSING to be okay with that and I’m not.
I guess all of this is to simply ask my strong lovely bees who are actively TTC – if having this surgery was the only way to get to a healthy weight and ultimately become a mother would you do it and not look back?