- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Do I think once a cheater, always a cheater? Not necessarily. However, I definitely wouldn’t cheat on someone, nor would I knowingly pursue a relationship with someone who I knew had cheated (either with someone else or with me). Relationships and marriages are tough enough without adding the “cheater” factor into it.
There are so many factors with infidelity. It really depends on the person and the relationship. It is also less likely for someone to be a cheater just because they like to cheat. Not saying there aren’t people like that, but it’s not as common as most would believe.
People change. Relationships can be complicated. You cannot label someone if you don’t know the whole story.
The man I dated prior to the Fiance cheated on me with his now wife and she was cheating with him on her husband. Did I mention that they were in seminary school together? They eventually got married but I know he’s been cheating on her. All I can is.. better her than me
I think you can’t have a sucessful relationship that started with lies- so if the guy cheated on someone to get with you- then yeah- that’s trouble.
The committed person has a bigger obligation NOT to stray, of course. I agree 100%. However, that cheater’s lack of respect/loyalty/morals doesn’t justify the other person partaking in the affair.
@highschoolhoneys: I think that 99.99% of the time it is true. I have yet to see a couple who get together that way last, however, I know there are some people for whom it has worked out. So I guess there will always be exceptions to the rule, I just think they are few and far between
I think in many cases it is true, but not all. If he cheated with you it could say to him you are ok with cheating, and therefore he would think it is ok to cheat on you. But not all cases are going to end up like that, so it’s more a case by case basis. Same thing with a woman cheating on a man, a man cheating on a man, or a woman cheating on a woman. It also depends on the age of the cheater when the cheating happened.
I think every case is different. Altho one of my favorite sayings is “becareful how you get him, because they way you got him may be the way you lose him”
I agree what goes around comes around. Had a guy I dated for 9 years cheat on me and married the woman he cheated on me with. After 4 years he done came back asking me can we work things out. But I’m happy to say I don’t want him
I would generally agree that people who get together while one or both of them are cheating, won’t last. If I ever found out that a man I was in a relationship with was also with someone else at the same time, I would definately lose respect for him. I doubt the realtionship could recover, since for me respect is just as important as love.
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