(Closed) If he cheated WITH you, he will cheat ON you?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you beeline the phrase- "If he cheats WITH you, he will cheat ON you" ??

    Yes, I totally completely believe this phrase. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

    No, I don't believe this phrase at all. Cheaters won't always cheat again.

    I would have to look at each case separately. Sometimes cheaters will cheat again, but not always.

  • Post # 77
    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @audrey_lane:  I think you should forgive yourself.  You and your now-fiance slipped up ONE time sexually, you both ended relationships with people you knew weren’t right for you, and you’re getting married to each other.  As an internet stranger, I give you permission to no longer feel guilty and awful about how your relationship began!  Congrats on your wedding!

    Post # 78
    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Do I think once a cheater, always a cheater? Not necessarily. However, I definitely wouldn’t cheat on someone, nor would I knowingly pursue a relationship with someone who I knew had cheated (either with someone else or with me). Relationships and marriages are tough enough without adding the “cheater” factor into it.

    Post # 79
    2777 posts
    Sugar bee

    @highschoolhoneys:  I don’t like to stereotype people so I don’t believe that someone cheating once means that they will forever be a cheater. Just like I don’t believe that someone who commits a crime will forever be a criminal 

    Post # 81
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There are so many factors with infidelity.  It really depends on the person and the relationship.  It is also less likely for someone to be a cheater just because they like to cheat.  Not saying there aren’t people like that, but it’s not as common as most would believe.  

    People change.  Relationships can be complicated.  You cannot label someone if you don’t know the whole story.

    Post # 82
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    The man I dated prior to the Fiance cheated on me with his now wife and she was cheating with him on her husband. Did I mention that they were in seminary school together? They eventually got married but I know he’s been cheating on her. All I can is.. better her than me Tongue Out

    Post # 83
    8008 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think you can’t have a sucessful relationship that started with lies- so if the guy cheated on someone to get with you- then yeah- that’s trouble. 

    Post # 85
    436 posts
    Helper bee

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    @Bebealways:  If the single person is aware that they are the “OTHER man/woman”, and continue to pursue a relationship with that person? Well, IMO, they are *almost* as guilty of “wrecking the home”, so to speak. It also depends how the relationship began, etc. There are many women who pursue relationships with married men without batting an eye, and vice-versa. 

    The committed person has a bigger obligation NOT to stray, of course. I agree 100%. However, that cheater’s lack of respect/loyalty/morals doesn’t justify the other person partaking in the affair. 

    Post # 86
    579 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @highschoolhoneys:  I think that 99.99% of the time it is true. I have yet to see a couple who get together that way last, however, I know there are some people for whom it has worked out. So I guess there will always be exceptions to the rule, I just think they are few and far between

    Post # 87
    9830 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think in many cases it is true, but not all. If he cheated with you it could say to him you are ok with cheating, and therefore he would think it is ok to cheat on you. But not all cases are going to end up like that, so it’s more a case by case basis. Same thing with a woman cheating on a man, a man cheating on a man, or a woman cheating on a woman. It also depends on the age of the cheater when the cheating happened.

    Post # 88
    20 posts

    I think every case is different. Altho one of my favorite sayings is “becareful how you get him, because they way you got him may be the way you lose him”

    Post # 88
    1 posts

    I agree what goes around comes around. Had a guy I dated for 9 years cheat on me and married the woman he cheated on me with. After 4 years he done came back asking me can we work things out.  But I’m happy to say I don’t want him

    Post # 89
    1270 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would generally agree that people who get together while one or both of them are cheating, won’t last. If I ever found out that a man I was in a relationship with was also with someone else at the same time, I would definately lose respect for him. I doubt the realtionship could recover, since for me respect is just as important as love.

    Post # 90
    10350 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    Zombie, closing

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