(Closed) If he doesn't propose soon, I'm going to lose my shit!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

What’s the rush? You have the rest of your life together.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I can honestly tell you that you aren’t alone, scroll down the boards, the Waiting Bees are all going to collectivley loose their shit if proposals don’t happen before Santa comes to town!  Something about the magic of the holiday, the time with family and not to metion copious amounts of pie and fudge…I’m not sure what the cause is, but I can tell you that maintaining your shit, while that may be difficult, is always a good thing! 

Bright side of the street, even if he doesn’t by Christmas, there’s a whole week after, and you’ll still have him when it’s all said and done to ring in 2013 with.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

Whoa girl. Calm down and breathe! All this anxiety is only going to ruin the holidays. Like Hyperventilate said, what’s the rush? The important thing is that you’re with the man you love and you want to spend your life with him. That isn’t going to change if he doesn’t propose in the next 25 days.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

ha ha ha!  I’m only laughing because I seriously feel the same way!  I think pp have been “predicting” that I would be engaged since APRIL.  Then we went ring shopping OVER THE SUMMER…. He says it will def be by the end of the year, but honestly- I have nearly lost my sh—t a number of times.  Then I calm myself back down by saying to myself that I know it’s coming, we are happy, and a ring won’t change anything.  I know that the future is forever, and we have discussed it, so I don’t need to freak myself out.  I can’t even tell you how many times I have talked myself down!In the end, you know you will be together, and the last thing you want to feel is that the proposal came AFTER you got mad.  Then you would always wonder or second guess his true intentions. 

But YOU ARE NOT ALONE!  We are all in this crazy waiting game together.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I feel you – and the only way to stop the crazy is to try and fool yourself into thinking its coming on a different date.  Start telling yourself he will propose on Valentines day instead and it will take off some of the holiday pressure.  I felt myself starting to stress out over whether a ring was coming before 2013 and this is the only approach that seems to work for me.  I just have to keep telling myself it wont happen until a date a few months out and to enjoy this time while I wait for that much later date. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Meanwhile I’m thinking “If this mothe* f’er doesn’t give me that ring I’m going to kill him!”

sorry don’t have any advice and don’t mean to be disrespectful but i read that line and started laughing so hard. Laughing 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I just tell myself its not coming at all and try and imagine all the exciting things I am going to do if that happens. So far all I have is get a personal trainer and travel (though not with said personal trainer). Hahaha!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

did he say he wanted to propose and disallowed you from doing so? Because you could do something about it.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Lily_of_the_valley:  I don’t think a proposal is nor should be a mark of “manning the eff up”. I also don’t believe that this is his only responsibility.

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