Post # 167
yeah right, that’s why single women are happy and married women are unhappy I guess, so in the end those unhappy women died first, so lot of single old men survived………..they are happy becoz women take care of them. so they keep on looking for single women, then another group of women are trapped.
but once these old men die, these women become conscious of their miserable life so they decide to be alone………..
lol, just joking.
Post # 168
Haha, you have a point though… 🙂
Post # 169
I would want my FH is remarry if he found the right person. Why would I care if he remarried or not after my death? In fact, I would want him to find someone who made him happy after I was gone.
Post # 170
@stephanie2013: It would be the greatest tribut to me if I passed away and my husband went on to live a life of happiness, passion, and love for the rest of his life.
Post # 171
and I want to say that actually I’m not talking about remarry, I’m talking about love and how we face the deceased.
if you do care your life partner, why not choose to be alone.
for me, I can still feel my Fiance is together with me. nobody intrudes in this space. I would live in peace in this way and see him in paradise one day.
for this, everything deserves. I feel good in my soul becoz I last one thing to the end. that’s meaningful to me.
there are still many people they live alone. they cannot find a good person to live together with? I don’t think so, it’s just that they don’t want. why they don’t want, I think you got the answers.
Post # 172
If you are still obsessing over this to the point you are questioning your relationship and confidence in your Fi, then you REALLY need to talk about it to a counselor.
Not everyone believes in soul-mates. I would definitely re-marry if my DH died and I would want him to as well (or be in a long term relationship, whatever he’s comfortable with). He knows this, and has no problem with it. There are many bees on here who are re-married after being widowed and it is VERY insulting to insinuate that their first DHs were not their “true love” or that they didn’t “really” love them if they were able to remarry.
You brought this up, your Fiance is not sitting around “preparing” for the next version of you after you die.
Post # 173
There is something that I really dont understand, why asking a question twice? You already asked him and he already told you, so why askint twice? I was dating a girl befoer that was always asking the same questions two or three times in a year just to see if I was lying. I would have done the same as your husband. My wife (and most of my exs) asked me the same question a few times, and to be honest, yes I would maybe remarry someone else, and that doesnt mean that I dont love my wife, it just means that I am not gonna stop leaving because I lost my wife. Of course it will take time, of course I wont love someone that soon, but life goes on and living in the past isnt the answer. IF I die, I would love to see my wife getting married once again so that she will be happy and not end up her life alone.
Post # 174
Fiance and I have had this conversation. He claims he would never want to be with anyone else or remarry and I told him that I want him to find someone else. I would most likely date and be in a committed relationship (without official marriage). I can’t imagine remarrying necessarily but I would not want to spend the rest of my life having lost Fiance and being alone with no companionship (sexual and otherwise). I feel in a lot of ways like so much of my life would be dying with him. No one should go through life without companionship because they lost their loved one before their time.
Post # 175
for the first time, just kind of joking
this time, seriously
Post # 176
I can’t agree more with you! Well said.
And why asking such question? Dont think about your death or what will happen after your death, its a waste of time.
Post # 177
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
I think no one can really say what they would feel or do until they’re in this position. If they remarried pretty quickly after you passed, then yes, I’d feel a little betrayed, hurt, etc. However, after years? 5 years? 10 years? 15 years? I’d expect them to move on with their life and become as happy as they can. Is that possible without getting remarried? Maybe, it’s up to the person. I know I’m happier when I’m with someone I love. However, I would expect my SO to remarry at some point after I died, or at least find a long-term committed relationship. Granted, after being on the Bee a while, I’ve noticed that neither one of us view marriage quite like most of the people here haha.
Post # 178
I remember that story so clearly. It was a horrible, tragedy. I had not heard anything further about it in years since the trial. I am very happy to hear that Dr Petit has found some peace and happiness after suffering so much.
many of the previous posters have eloquently summed up my opinion on this subject, which is basically the opposite of yours. So, I won’t waste time rehashing points that have already been made. But, I would caution you against obsessing and agonizing over hypotheticals. Life is far too short to spend time manufacturing reasons to be upset. That kind of thinking will impact your own ability to be happy and the happiness of your marriage.
Post # 179
Sperm donors, adoption, etc. But that’s the couple’s decision, if they are ok with their spouses marrying someone else that’s their choice. For me and Fiance it wouldn’t work.
Post # 180
All of those things are off limits too. You can get hugged and kissed by family and friends.
I am 23, but what does my age have to do with anything? And no I’m not “just nervous about my upcoming wedding”
Post # 181
I would say being called selfish is an insult but to each their own.
ETA: And I guess to you calling someone stupid or ugly would be ok too? Since ‘they’re not insults, they’re descriptions’?