(Closed) If I got contact info but haven’t sent out the std or invite, do i still invite?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Since you asked for their info, they are probably expecting an invite. If at all possible, I think you should try to invite them. Otherwise, try to work it into conversations with them that your Fiance has a huge family and you’re disappointed about not being able to invite everyone you hoped.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@kaycee1:  We’re in a similar situation – we have a number of friends, esp. local friends, who are going to assume they’re invited (we’re getting married in the town where we both live and work, not anyone’s hometown). We simply canNOT expand the invite list further. So we’re concentrating the wedding on family and out of town guests, and then about a month after the wedding we’re going to have local friends over for a casual party at the house (no gifts for that one). I think most people understand that weddings are fearfully expensive, and we have to limit these things, and as long as they feel loved and included in some way, they’ll get over the initial disappointment of not being invited to the big day.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

maybe have them on guest list b and if ur guest list a’s send rsvps “not coming” then u can still invite them..

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dont think your Fiance HAS to invite anyone.  You both chose your list already.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The same thing happened with us, so we just sent the save the date’s anyway.  Once they went out we knew that it would get mentioned on facebook and through other mutual friends, so it wasn’t worth hurting people’s feelings to have obtained their addresses and then send them nothing.  We’re hoping we have enough declines, but we also have a backup plan just in case.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

It is just common good seto try to keep track of people’s contact information, whether you are hating married or not. You might want to send Christmas cards, to have them to dinner in your new home after you are married, or use them for networking as you develop your career. Regardless what you were thinking when you asked for their addresses, if you didn’t say anything then you implied no promises and are under no obligation.

I would send them a Chrstmas card, though 😉

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

nope 🙂

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