(Closed) If I had married my ex…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Depends on which ex!

If I had married my 1st ex:

I’d be living in the middle of nowhere Idaho and probably would have never gone to college. I’d probably be a master elk hunter/camper by now. (Totally different from my NYC persona) I’d also be constantly worried about my husband during his working months, as he jumps out of helicopters to fight fires. When he’d be home, I’d probably never get a word in edgewise (he was a TALKER!). We still chat on the phone from time to time an it is always at least  a 2 hr conversation.

If I’d married my 2nd ex (and first love):

I’d be an army wife moving from base to base, constantly worried about my husband transporting injured soldiers back from the front lines (he’s now a hospital corpsman). Probably would have never finished college because being long distance is what broke us up.

If I’d married my 3rd ex (longest relationship prior to FI);

I’d have the WORST Mother-In-Law ever and be treated like a housemaid/hired help whenever we visited his family. I’d never see my husband because he’s getting his PhD and has always put schoolwork above any intra-personal relationships. I’d constantly feel dumb when it came to academics (even-though he and I got the same degree from the same university) but I’d have to take care of everything for him (including reminding him to take his driver’s license to the airport so he’d have ID to fly).

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d be an alcoholic and probably be in therapy for verbal abuse.

Post # 5
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d more than likely be extremely unhappy or divorced by now. Thank God I got rid of him and found my husband!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would be in direct disobedience to God. I have a dream/vision one night and heard from the Lord. He told me if I stay with that man my life would be most miserable, but if I let him go—He would bless me with something MUCH GREATER!!!

I got up, threw on something, drove to him house, and called it quits. If I had stayed with him: I’d be miserable, lonely, under his sick control, used as a trophy wife, told what to do, kept from my family, moved into a gated community and probably never happy. If I had stayed with him…. I would have never met THE TRUE MAN OF MY DREAMS AND ANSWER TO “ALL” MY PRAYERS!!! MY TRUE HUSBAND…THE MAN SENT FROM GOD…. Wow, I Love me some Love!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It depends on which ex. I could see either happiness or terrible outcomes. haha. Either way, I know where I am, is where I am supposed to be, because its the moment I am having as of right now.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d probably be insane or dead because he was emotionally abusive and destroyed my self esteem. Goooood times.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

If I married my ex, we’d be divorced or miserable. I’d probably have another child by him that I’d be struggling to raise on my own.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If I had married my ex, I’d be a divorcee at the ripe old age of 20.  🙂  Really, it wasn’t going to last very long, even if we had gotten married.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I loved all my ex’s for different reasons, but I don’t think I’d be as happy with any of them as I am with Fiance.

None of them would have been a really “bad” relationships though. I just focused on the “bad” parts in my post. I was lucky to have a string of positive and loving relationships before finding Fiance.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would be a miserable trophy wife, that was alone and friendless, pleasing a man that would never appreciate me. I would probably be severely depressed and in therapy for emotional abuse. 

Post # 13
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would be a military wife instead of a baseball wife.  Either way, I’d rarely see my husband, LOL.

No, but my ex got married three years ago, and is already in a divorce – at the age of 22. 

Post # 14
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Newbee

Hmm, if I had married my Ex… we would probably be living in his parents basement, I wouldn’t have started college, my self esteem would have never improved, and I wouldn’t have been able to help my Mother out the times she has needed it.

Oh, and I wouldn’t have been with Mr Crol so I would have been misrably unhappy without my best friend ^_^

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

..I would probably be divorced or unhappily trying to convince myself that he was faithful. I’d also be doing this across the country from all of my family and friends because that’s where he was stationed. I’m so glad I snapped out of it before we went through with getting married!! Unfortunately my little sister went through with the same exact thing and is now in the middle of a messy divorce at 20 years old. 🙁
 
That’s the only ex that I came close to marrying but I think I would have been unhappy with any of my others as well. Fiance is the first of my significant others that I can actually realistically (not delusionally) see a happy future with.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Hmmm, I’d be a drug addict from all the peer pressure from him. And an alcholic and in constant therapy from all of his emotional abuse. I’d be more than a hot mess. He was a grade A douche. Actually, douche is probably too nice of a word.

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