Post # 1
This is a spinoff from an earlier thread, but picture this:
When they’re younger, some girls have an idea of when they want to get married. If had gotten married then, where would you be/who would you be with?
I’d be with my college boyfriend, J, who now lives in Orlando with his lovely wife and two kids. Oh, and did I mention he propositioned me when he was in DC for a conference 4 years ago? Ummm, yeah. I got off lucky.
Post # 3
…..divorced by now. He was a cheater and a control freak. Looking back it makes me wonder what the hell I was thinking. I chalk it up to being naive but thank goodness I had enough common sense to end it when I finally realised his true personality.
Post # 4
Yeah I’d have been divorced by now and not nearly so happy as I am. I’ve never felt as comfortable or at home with any guy that I dated as I do with my husband!
Post # 5
Oh yes. Divorced. That guy went to prison.
ETA. That guy was the first one I could actually see having said yes to, if circumstances had been different, and if he had been the person I thought he could be. Unfortunately, I could all to clearly envision being married to the person he was, so I said no. (Repeatedly.) I was pretty stupid in a lot of ways when I was younger, but when it came to the things that really mattered, I had excellent foresight.
Post # 6
Going by age alone, I would be marrying the guy I’m engaged to now. However, going when I thought I met a guy I would marry…I would be divorced. There were some fun times, but overall, there were too many differences. He loves to travel the world, and I knew he didn’t want to live in our hometown. I like staying in one place.
Post # 7
If I went with my childhood imagination then I would have married at 16 to my high school boyfriend and have lots of sproglets. We’re still friends so it wouldn’t have been too awful, but I’m much happier with my later dream which is coming right.
By the end of my teens, 28 became my getting married age and that is the age that I’m getting married.
Post # 8
@Elvis:That’s an interesting update, and it brings up a good point.
I would have married my college boyfriend if I had married by 24. My SECOND near miss was the guy before Fi, who I was with for 7 years. I was so in love with the idea of getting married and who I thought he COULD be, I would have probably ended up divorced by now too. I found out he got 2 DUIs during a binge year and I have no idea where he is now.
Post # 9
single. I was always the girl that said I was never getting married and never having kids… now I’m married and pregnant. lol.
Post # 10
@zippylef: same! I would be single working in the FBI. That was always my dream…until I met Fiance and got a new dream!
Post # 11
I would be marrying the same man. I have been in love with my Fiance since I was 16 but we didn’t start dating until I was 23. He was my boyfriends best friend (does that sound bad?) and we have always been friends but one day when we ran into each other it just clicked that we needed to be together.
Post # 12
…probably unhappily married or in the process of getting a divorce. I only dated one guy seriously before dating my Fiance, and that other guy and I dated off and on for about 6 or 7 years. I did envision myself marrying him, but we were just really not suited to each other. Plus, he drank way too much for my taste, and did stupid things while he was drunk. I also know that his parents divorced because of his dad’s drinking, and I think some of that type of behavior rubs off on the kids (either through genetics or learned behavior).
So yeah, I’m really happy he and I never quite made it to that place in our relationship!
Post # 13
@AmberRae: That is so sweet! Congratulations–it’s coming up so soon!
Post # 14
already be married to Fiance, lol.
We started dating at 18 and 21, and I always thought we’d be married by 25 and 28. Now I’ve just turned 29.. but, we’re getting married next May, so I guess it’s all coming in it’s own sweet time. 😛
Post # 15
i would be miserable and unhappily married to my ex boyfriend ( the one right before my husband) and prentending to be someone im not.
Post # 16
I recently read an old blog entry of mine where I guessed I’d be married at 25. I’m now getting married at 28, to the same guy I was with back when I wrote the blog entry. So the only difference is that we’d be celebrating our 3 year anniversary now instead of just starting our marriage, haha.