- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I’m gonna freaking explode!!! FI and I have made the decision together on our photographer. We have decided to use my cousin who does photography on the side and she has in turn decided to do the shooting for free and charge us $50 to do the editing to it and we will have all rights to the pictures and she is super great. We love her. She doesn’t do the most phenomenal pictures but she does good pictures and photography just isn’t as important to us as other things. I really just want the pictures to show how happy everyone will be and how nice we will all look; they don’t have to be super artsy they just have to get the job done.
Well FMIL is so not happy with my cousin’s work because she is too busy looking at pictures from photographers who have been in the business for years and charge thousands of dollars. She brought it up a couple times in the past and we have just changed the subject saying that anyone else would be too expensive and we have other people who will take pictures throughout the day as well.
Well she just took out a huge loan to pay off all her debt and acts like she is rolling in money now. She gave us a thousand dollars from the loan, we questioned multiple times if she could afford to give us the money and that we would be fine without the money and we didn’t expect it, etc. She insisted, so we took the money and I immediately said, “This will be so helpful in covering alcohol expenses.” I wanted to get it out there what we would be spending the money on just in case she had her own ideas. She said, “Great, I’ll make sure to get my drink on.” I thought it was done.
Well last night we were all sitting there eating dinner for mother’s day, this is our conversation:
Her “O Alyssa! I decided to do some research.”
Me “On what?”
Her “Wedding photographers, I never realized how expensive they were!”
Me (seeing where this is going and so not happy but covering it up) “I told you professionals start at around 2 grand, that’s why we already chose our cousin. We’re really happy with her.”
Her “Well I’m just not very impressed with her and you know what she told me? She said she doesn’t like taking suggestions from people on the day of the wedding and I think that is just so rude, you know I love her but I think you should get a different photographer.”
Me “We already talked about the day and we are going to the venue to plan out pictures before the day of and she told me she will only take directions from FI and me. To many people trying to get their ideas on the day will be confusing and just stress me out, that is how I want.”
Her “O well I get that but I just think she should take suggestions! I think you should use the money I gave you to cover half of a professional photographer, I know it will only get you a few hours but I think it will be worth it and it’ll make me so happy. I was looking at their pictures and this one photographer takes beautiful pictures I love them so much.”
FI coming to save her from getting punched in the face “Mom we already decided on a photographer and how to use the money you gave us, we are not blowing 2 grand on pictures. We are sticking to our decision.”
Her mad now “We’ll talk about this later!”
Bees I swear if she brings up this photography shit again I will go off, I’m so tired of having the same conversation with her. If she tries to make us use that money on a photographer I will give it right back to her, if she tries to pull a couple grand out of her ass to pay for one I will refuse it. I don’t want a professional photographer! What will make her see that?