Post # 1
I just have to get this off my chest.
I went to college. I have a graduate degree. I put gas in my car and pay my bills and handle criticism just fine thankyouverymuch. This is the internet. If you ask for opinions, please understand that you will get ones that agree with you and ones that do not.
That is not snark. That is the REAL WORLD.
This website has turned into a culture of “yes-men”. The bees who have strong opinions run scared about expressing them for fear of being flagged or warned by mods who are more concerned with playing hotess games than keeping things honest around here.
I was a member of WB 2 years ago when things were a little different. I am an adult and I come here looking for adult opinions, not a chorus of Disney Princesses saying that everything I choose is rainbows and puppies.
That being said, I am thinking of joining the forums at The Knot. All snark aside, I can’t deal with the fear-mongering and sugar-coating of WB anymore. I will still be around periodically but this website is no longer an honest forum.
Post # 3
Had too. Sorry.
I too, feel like shit get sugarcoated around here too. Honest opinions are needed sometimes. I am not familiar with any of your comments or posts so I am not sure what brought this topic on. But, I do somewhat agree with you. If I look like crap in my dress I want to know. Etc…
Post # 5
It does get annoying when you disagree with someone, even if you’re being rational and pleasant about it, they automatically accuse you of being snarky. I don’t think some people understand what precisely snark is.
Post # 6
I think there are bees out there willing to speak their mind. I see snark as being about delivery, not substance.
Post # 7
It’s a shame you feel the need to leave. The hostess team wishes you all the best with your life and future endeavors. 🙂
Post # 8
some people just dont like when you dont agree, and to them I guess its “snarky” or rude or whatever, and its sad….. make sure when you post you have the same opinion as me even if I am asking for honest opinions, I feel ilke have have to say “Im sorry I feel this way but…..”
its not everbody its just those that are that way really stand out
Post # 9
Well nothing in particular brought it on. I’ve never been warner or flagged. I have seen quite a few posts going up lately about snark, etc. I don’t think I have EVER been truly snarky in a post. Snarky means bitchy, right? However, there are plenty of times an OP asks for advice, I disagree with the OP and I DON’T post my thoughts because I am afraid of being accused of being bitchy/snarky.
If I’m not posting my honest thoughts, then plenty of other users are feeling the same way. Which pretty much renders any poll or post seeking advice useless. There are a lot of people afraid to be honest on WB, and I’m among them.
Post # 10
There are far too many people who, when faced with an opposing opinion, cry foul and wonder why people are “always being mean to meeeeeee!!!”
I agree with @Miss Leopard:, it does seem like some ladies are expected to be placated because they’re a bride. Don’t come to a public forum and post if you want harmonious shouts of “YES!! You are right!” in unison.
I think “snarky” and “tacky” both should be banned forever.
Post # 11
dang it you stole my line!
i don’t post in the threads where I disagree with the majority. maybe i’m being a weenie.
Post # 12
@Miss Leopard: Hear hear lady! Absolutely 100% agree with you, I think some of the women here are fairly thin-skinned… Really irritating. If they think half the stuff here is snarky, then they must be incredibly new to the internet… Lol.
Post # 13
+1. I have seen many a disagreement on here that is politely dealt with, rather than being rude or accusatory.
Post # 14
It would make a huge difference if people just stated in their OP “hey, I want sympathy and not differing opinions on this vent…” That way those of us who appreciate completely honest opinions wouldn’t continue on with those threads. It does get extremely frustrating to give an honest opinion and then get backlash for it. Like a PP mentioned, if I look like crap, I want to know it!
I don’t think she’s made the decision to leave yet, she just said she’s thinking about it.
Post # 15
I myself have never sugarcoated anything I said. But I never swore. I have been rude, I think, once and I got beaten down for it… but that just makes me say things in a different way that is not offensive to anyone (on the bee) personally.
Post # 16
Hmmm. I agree with this, but I also think there is a small group of people who like to stir the pot honestly. I think it goes both ways, and like a PP said, it really depends on the delivery.