(Closed) If I hear the word "snarky" one more &%#$ing time!

• Natalieh86
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: May 2012

@iheartsquishy:  Oh I wasn’t saying it wasn’t a good word to use!  I liked it.  It makes me laugh for some reason.  

As in the TOS could read “don’t be a butthead.”

• JessicaPop
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: August 2012

[Post moderated for personl attack, name calling and snark]

• iheartsquishy
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@Natalieh86:  Oh, sorry 🙂 You see how easily things can be misread?!?!!  People probably do not mean to come off as mean or sarcastic, but it’s easy to misinterpret things.

Edit: I agree. Don’t be a butthead should be in the TOS.

• happyface
• 9 years ago

In a forum where feelings and emotions are WRITTEN, there is no face to judge what the poster is actually meaning. For example:

*** Get out of here!

What do you think the above means? Playful, smiling, joking or does it mean “get the f**k out” type of angry-ness with fire coming out of their eyes? You can’t tell.  I actually try to put some kind of smiley face after those types of comments, hoping that the persons reading them will understand that it’s a joke. 

 

• AB Bride
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: January 2011

@JessicaPop:  Is your post meant to be sarcastic?

If not, it comes across as being quite hypocritical.

• OrchidsandCandles
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: March 2016

@AB Bride:  +1

• StefLovesJamie
• 9 years ago

@happyface:  I do the smileys, too! I get worried people will read things wrong and try to save myself before that happens.

(IMO, though, I like everyone being nice to everyone, and giving advice when asked. I DON’T like when people respond to someone posting on an OP’s thread, saying something rude to the person who was talking to the OP, when clearly that person didn’t ask for a rebuttal to their opinion. Unless it is an open-ended question. There are just too many blurry lines between honestly and cruelty. And since this is the interwebs, sometimes it’s impossible to figure out someone’s intentions.)

 

 LOL!

• claireos
• 9 years ago

@MadameTussaud:  On that same token though, I have frequently seen post labled as vents, where a poster explains in their 1st or last sentence that this was simply a vent and they aren’t looking for problem solvers yet they get flooded with people who feel that despite that they’re gonna pump the OP full of their unwanted opinions and advice. Don’t get me wrong, I think you’re right that people who truly simply want sympathy and not an opinion should state so and don’t always do that. But there are those who do who are literally ignored then flamed for posting anything. 

• JoanHarris
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

I visit the Knot Etiquette forum for the lulz. Women who take pleasure in tearing down others over the internet are sad and yet oh so amusing. It’s like, how boring is your real life that you feel the need to spend so much time in viritual land reminding everyone how “badass” and “top bitch” you are? 

• vorpalette
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

There’s a difference between being honest/giving honest opinions and being snarky. Disagreeing with someone =/= snarky. Being condescending, sarcastic, intentionally rude, etc. is snark. Tactful honesty is not. There’s a difference. 

Do some people have a thin skin? Yes. Do some people have a problem being tactful? Yes. 

 

• sunnywoods
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

@vorpalette:  This 

• BlondeMissMolly
• 9 years ago

@vorpalette:  Well said!

• deetroitwhat
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

Dramaaaaaaaaaaa.  This is like when someone announces they are going to delete people on Facebook before they do it.  Just go if that’s how you feel.

• mrsSonthebeach
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I try so hard sometimes to say something honest without being rude and still get flamed in subsequent comments as if I’ve said something terrible. I read the things that other are mad at me for saying and then read my post, and those aren’t even the things I’ve said. It’s really annoying.

• Treeline
• 9 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

The word snarky is so irritating because it is passive aggressive. It’s way less irritating and honest to be called a b*tchy or a b*tch.