(Closed) If I pay for my groomsman’s tuxedos, do I still need to get them gifts?

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m not sure, I’d like to hear opinions too. We bought our BMs their dresses, and I am not sure I can afford much more for a gift!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think something small/meaningful/not very expensive is still appropriate to give to your wedding party even if you pay for their tuxes.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

The gift doesnt have to cost a lot, but I think there should be a token of appreciation for supporting you. It can be as simple as a letter and picture in a frame, or a 6 back of assorted beers tied with a beer and a beer mug.

I don’t think paying for the clothes, while really nice, constitutes as a gift.  A gift is usually something they want or can use. You chose the dress/tux to match your style, your colors and your wedding. Even though it did save them the expense I suspect when they accepted the invitation to be in the wedding party they expected a cost related to it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Not necessary, but nice. You could always get them something small like a personalized beer mug.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think no.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We probably will, but if we don’t … I’m pretty sure the groomsmen won’t even notice. If anything, they’ll get a $10 cigar sampler  (and they’ll still LOVE it). Guys are just low maintenance. Just remind them how much booze they’ll be drinking for free that day… that counts for a lot!!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

Yes, I think a small token is appropriate.  It’s nice that you are covering the cost of their tuxes, but I think a gift of appreciation is just that – a gift of appreciate (that is different than the generosity of covering the cost they would incur for outfits to be in your wedding).

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I say no. Your gift is fronting the costs of their tuxedos, which I’m sure they are VERY thankful for.

I think nice, personalized handwritten cards to each will be a lovely gesture. But, you def shouldn’t feel obligated to get them gifts on top of your inital gift 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Not necessary, but nice.  Something small but personal would do nicely.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think another gift is necessary.  If the tuxes are not paid for yet, you could always tell them “our gift to you is to pay for the tuxes.”  Then it is clear.

I DO think this is a gift because otherwise they would have to spend money on it.  By saving them the money, it is indeed a gift.

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