(Closed) If I want the RSVP date 6 weeks out…

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve heard 2-3 months before the wedding date

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My wedding is May 27th, I’m sending out invites now, and I want them back May 1. I would give your guests about 6 weeks to send the RSVP back, so they can make travel arrangements, make sure they can get time off work, etc. Why do you need to have them back 6 weeks before? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I sent mine out a month before and I had a horrible RSVP rate…so I say earlier is better.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would send it out at least six weeks before the RSVP deadline.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is there a specific reason you want the RSVPs so early?  Invites are supposed to go out about 6 weeks before the wedding, 8 weeks max. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Willow1991:  hmm – I’d probably find a middle ground – maybe send the invites out at 8 weeks before the wedding, and allow 4 weeks for RSVPs.  I think 10+ weeks before the wedding would be WAY too early, and less than 2 weeks of an RSVP window would be pretty tight.

As far as the OOT’ers go – did you do STDs?  We did them just for out OOT’ers, and have already heard from a few that they won’t be able to make it (other weddings, babies on the way, etc) – We’ll still send them invites, but have already been able to mark them as not coming.

I know it gets complicated – but – sending out the invites super early won’t necessarily eliminate the issue.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If most people are Out of Town I would give them at the most 8 weeks. I guess that’s the max for standard etiquette that I’ve heard. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We sent Save-The-Date Cards to our A list guests, both Out of Town and in-town, 7 months prior to the wedding. 

We decided to have 2 RSVP dates for our Aug 27th wedding:

Out of Town – we plan to start sending the invites in mid-April with RSVP deadline of mid-June. They already received the STD so it’s just a matter of formally telling us if they’re coming or not. It’ll also give them enough time to apply for visa, if they need to.

In-town guests + B list – we plan to send the invites in mid-June with RSVP deadline near the end of July.

We have to meet the minimum F&B, so we have to have enough guests. But by the same token, we don’t want to invite more guests if we don’t have to. So, we will prioritize our Out of Town guests, then our in-town A list, then our in-town B list.

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I know invites are supposed to go out 8-6 weeks max before a wedding, but I don’t think sending them out 10 weeks in advance would be the worst thing ever. Any earlier than that though and you may be pushing it and run the risk of people forgetting about your event. 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think most of the people on here are CRAZY to be sending them out so late!!  A MONTH before the wedding??  8 weeks MAX??  Where are you people getting this information??  Most bridal websites say to send invites 3 months before the wedding date.  Hotels don’t even save rooms past 30 days out!  I sent mine 3 months before the date, and I also wanted them back 6 weeks before the wedding – my venue requires final numbers 2 weeks before and the 2 weeks before that my fiance and I will both be insanely busy at work so we won’t have time to deal with it then.  If you sent out save the dates, I cannot see how someone would NOT know if they can come to your wedding only 6 weeks before it.  Just give them at LEAST 4 weeks between mailing and rsvp date and you’ll be fine.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Willow1991:  I hear ya. That’s why we’re doing 2 sets of invites. If we get a lot of Out of Town declines, then we can invite more in-town guests! And if we send the second set of invites within 2-3 months, then they wouldn’t feel like we’re inviting them at the last minute to fill up the space. Just make sure you send the STD to everyone in your A list! 🙂

@JD193:  I totally agree!

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