Post # 1
Soooo I sincerely doubt my SO would propose this coming weekend, but a girl can dream, right? I’ve been unemployed since February 3, and FINALLY got a job that starts June 4, but no vacation time for the first six months. Therefore, I want to make next weekend count and I booked us rooms for Sat and Sun night up on Minnesota’s north shore. Since I highly doubt he will propose, I’ve been wondering in my mind what I would do if we ladies were the ones to propose instead of our men…
We’ll be staying at this ridiculously romantic resort called Bluefin Bay. I’d wait until SO was in the bathroom, steal his phone and call his mom for permission early in the weekend. I’d wait until Sunday, because nothing is better than a lazy Sunday with brunch and crossword puzzles to feel all warm and fuzzy. I’d suggest a leisurely walk by the lake and, as we are walking, I’d start telling him what a great weekend I had, ask him if he remembers the last time we were there in November when we first started to talk marriage. I’d then tell him that I’ve decided I don’t want to spend another second of my life without him as my husband, and I’d get down on one knee and ask him if he’d marry me and spend every Sunday of the rest of his life with me.
I don’t have a ring for him, but awhile back, I bought him a nice leather watch. So I’d probably propose with that instead of saving it for his birthday. He’d probably wear it more than a ring anyway 😉 And then we’d call all of our family and friends and I’d probably still wear my mom’s engagement ring while we’re engaged. I’d also finally be able to start planning and put down a deposit for our wedding next Memorial Day Weekend–we decided a couple months ago on Sunday of Mem Day Weekend 2013.
Le sigh. I guess I just keep waiting and trying not to get my hopes up for the weekend. So I’m curious, how would you gals propose if it was our responsibility to do it?
Post # 3
@stace0616: I know Bluefin Bay! My SO and I are also going up north for the holiday weekend but we’ll be roughing it in the BWCA haha…I’m jealous of your luxury accomodations.
Sounds like you have an awesome proposal idea…maybe you should use it? Or maybe you’ll get lucky and he’ll propose first! 😉
Post # 4
@bellasperanza: They have great rates if you’re ok with a hillside room. My biggest concern was access to that outdoor whirlpool overlooking Lake Superior!! It should be a great weekend up North for both of us weather-wise lol!
Proposal or no proposal, he deserves a weekend away from responsibilities and from trying to take care of me. I had some pretty dark days the past few months and he was always taking me out, cheering me up, and reminding me every single day why he is the one I’m meant to be with.
I figure this weekend should be about HIM and the things HE likes: crosswords, brunch, massages, hot tub time, snuggling, and telling him just how much I appreciate everything he does for me. I *may* even let him borrow my iPhone to check his fantasy baseball team scores 😉
Post # 5
I’m going to be honest….it would depend on which guy I were proposing to.
Y’all already knew how I proposed to Shutterbug.
If I proposed to my best friend, I’d do the following: Install a new custom made version of Minesweeper onto his laptop. Encourage him to play. Make the pattern of the revealed bombs spell out “Will you marry me?”
Post # 6
I did propose. It was his third year anniversary of starting his business, I cooked a beautiful meal, candles, wine etc. We were cuddling and talking about our future and I looked up at him and said ‘will you marry me’ and he said ‘yes’ (which I wasn’t expecting it!) We had agreed we wanted to get married and he told me afterwards he was planning to propose to me. think he was a tiny bit relieved he was off the hook as far as proposing to me, since he knew getting married was a big deal to me and he was scared of doing the proposal wrong.
We are a pretty unconventional couple in a lot of ways, we definitely treat each other lke equals, so he wasn’t intimidated or esmasculated. He didn’t want a mangagement ring, he bought me a ring and got down on one knee and made a speech, so he had his turn. He is proud that I was brave enough to ask him. I don’t regret it at all, people are impressed that I asked and I know we have really loved getting engaged.
The only thing stopping a woman proposing to man is tradition, and you get to choose what traditions you have in your life and marriage.
Post # 7
@stace0616: You are such a great girlfriend! I’m sure he’s going to love it–and you should have a great time too! Crossing my fingers for good weather, they’re now talking rain (UGH).
@Titania26: I love your story! Such a great point that we get to choose which traditions we want to include. There are no rules!