(Closed) If I’m her bridesmaid, does she have to be mine?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

You definitely don’t have to return the favor.  It’s nice to do so, but it isn’t expected.

Post # 4
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Nope.  You don’t have to ask her to be a bridesmaid if you don’t want her to be one.

Post # 5
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t think it’s necessary to reciprocate but I have thought about this sooo much over the last couple months as well! I haven’t picked my wedding party yet but I have 2 friends that are engaged and I am honestly kinda waiting to see what they are going to do. I know it should be who I want up there with me but I am such a people pleaser that I would feel bad not reciporcating :/

If for some reason your friend asks I would just be honest with her and say you picked your FI’s sisters so there was no drama with friends! She can’t be upset with that. 

Post # 6
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No, you def don’t have to ask her. You’ve got an easy out since your wedding party is just his sisters. That’s very clear. Your friend shouldn’t feel offended. 

Post # 7
97 posts
Worker bee

You don’t have to ask her. You are keeping it to family only so she should not feel offended.

Post # 8
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

This happend to me, only the other way around! One of my really good friends only wanted to have her cousin stand up with her and be her only bridesmaid, I was fine with that b/c then I didnt have to put up as much money.  Now Im getting married and I want her to be a part of my wedding because I want her to be a part of my big day and take all the fun pictues! Was not a problem for me ๐Ÿ™‚ So no you do not have to, you should not feel obligated!

Post # 9
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was going to be the Maid/Matron of Honor for a friend but then she moved away and I didn’t ask her to be in my wedding…I also have a Maid/Matron of Honor that just got engaged and chose three other friends to be BMs

Post # 10
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t worry it’s okay ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 11
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

You don’t HAVE to ask her.  Ask her if you want….  but it sounds like it gets a bit complicated after that!!  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t ask her if you don’t really want her involved – you’ve got the “just family” excuse to go on, anyway so you’re set!

Post # 13
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You don’t have to…I’m assuming she already knows who your bridal party is? It makes sense if it’s all family…

Post # 14
656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

you don’t have to return the favor. basically the same thing happened to me – a friend enlarged her party and invited two more women to stand with her, and I was one of them. But, I only had family in my side of the bridal party, and didn’t ask her to be in it. She was honestly relieved to be able to just enjoy a wedding!

Post # 15
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No you don’t have to but it’ll probably be awkward.

Post # 16
39 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think since you are keeping it to family she should understand ๐Ÿ™‚

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