Post # 1
I have 2 friends from childhood who are still both very close friends of mine. One is my Maid/Matron of Honor and the other is a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Both of these girls’ parents played a huge role in my life growing up and I would like to have them attend my wedding. However, each of these friends also has siblings. The Bridesmaid or Best Man has 2 sisters, and my Maid/Matron of Honor has 3 sisters and a brother. That’s 6 extra guests that we don’t *necessarily* have room or budget for. While I of course grew up around these siblings through the nature of sleepovers/family vacations/etc. I wouldn’t say any of them played a role in my life and I don’t talk to them outside of seeing them at the friend’s home or any events where their family would be like birthday parties.
So, is it okay to invite friend + parents without inviting the entire family? Not sure of the etiquette on this. Thanks!
Post # 2
Yes of course it’s okay to invite the parents that you feel a connection with and not invite the siblings that you don’t. It is totally fine!
We had a few instances of this at our wedding actually.
Post # 3
I don’t think you need to invite siblings unless you were very close to them as well. I am inviting the parents of several childhood friends, but not siblings as I did not have an established relationship with them.
Post # 4
Are the siblings adults? I think that plays a bit of a role. I invited a few childhood friend’s parents and I did not invite their siblings, however, their siblings are all adults and out of the house. Even if they are kids, I wouldn’t feel obligated to invite them.
Post # 5
Sure. Sometimes you’re close with a friend’s siblings and it would be natural to invite them. If you’re not though, they shouldn’t be disappointed or offended when they’re not invited.
Post # 6
I definitely don’t think you have to invite them, and I also don’t think they’d be too hurt by not being invited. They’re probably busy, and will be just as glad to see the pictures and hear you’re doing well. This has actually happened to me recently, my childhood best friend’s brother got married and invited my parents since they are best friends with the parents. One big jumble but I wasn’t the least offended to not go! 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2015 - Restaurant
I agree with PPs, if your relationship with their siblins is not that strong there is no obligation to invite them. If they get offended then is their issue, as I strongly believe people shouldn’t get offended because of not getting invited to weddings (they are so expensive!). Just go ahead and invite your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man with their parents 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
You don’t need to invite them.
Post # 9
I keep in touch with one of my childhood friend’s parents, and yes, they are invited. I don’t talk to him anymore and haven’t for over 10 years, so no, he is not invited lol Don’t invite randoms if you can avoid it.
Post # 10
I’m inviting the parents of four of my bridesmaids, but only the siblings of one bridesmaid. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to leave out siblings, especially if you are not particularly close to them.
Post # 11
No you do not need to invite someone’s siblings just bc they are in your wedding and you are inviting the parents. I invited my one BM’s brother & family and my Bridesmaid or Best Man was so grateful.
Post # 12
It’s not ok, that could cause resentment. You knew them so why not invite them? But then again it’s your wedding you do what you want, but since you’re asking for my advice, it’s not ok.
Post # 13
I’m inviting one of my best childhood friends (and her partner) and her mother (and HER partner), but I’m not inviting my friend’s brother because we were never close and haven’t spoken in 10 years if not more. I felt bad about it at first (even though I’m 99% sure this guy wouldn’t care in the slightest), so I’m super relieved to see that all of you think that’s fine. Whew!
Post # 14
Absolutely agree with the PP, you can invite your friend & their parents without inviting the siblings!
Post # 15
I think because there is more than one sibling you are not inviting its fine. We had a suituation where we wanted to invite Future Mother-In-Law friend, her husband and Daughter (my FH has alaways been good friends with their daughter) however she has one sister, and we thought it would not to invite the sister. Since it was only 1 person it didn’t make that much difference, however 6 is a lot 🙂