If it’s not a diamond, then it must be fake?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Moissanite is a lab-created mineral that looks like a diamond and can have the same brilliance as a diamond.

Moissanite is a naturally occurring mineral, silicone carbide. It was discovered in 1893 by Henri Moissan in a meteor. Since there are almost no supplies of this mineral on earth, scientists set out to create synthetic moissanite in a lab.

Anything lab created is fake…in my opinion. It reminds of a CZs to be honest. If I dislike diamonds, I would opt for my birthstone (but my birthstone is diamond, sorry for my fiance lol)…or go for a rare stone like Tanzanite!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Congrats on your upcoming engagement! So exciting. That’s too bad that your friend made that comment… pretty rude considering you and FH decided to go with moissanite. IMO, though, you do kind of have to understand that many people view moissanite as a diamond simulant (especially since they market it as such), so in a lot of minds simulant = fake, KWIM? That’s a nasty term to use though for a perfectly pretty stone to use in an e-ring. Anyway I think it’s great that you chose something different from the norm and I hope you won’t let anyone make you feel bad about your decision!

You should hang out with us on the Waiting board btw, we’re a fun time. hehe 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Good for you Miss Tattoo!  I think people should consider all the available options out there before they automatically jump to diamonds.  I think it’s fine that people like them, it’s their choice!  I don’t understand why it has to be a diamond for people, but people can say the same things about shoes, designer handbags, clothes–some sort of expectation or entitlement.  For me, it’s not an option.  I have a 0.75 carat cz currently (while “fake” in some people’s opinion)–it’s perfect for my fiance and me, and that’s all that matters.  I’m not even sure I want to wear an engagement ring when I get married.  I absolutely LOVE aquamarine and white sapphires.  However, I want something plain to wear on a daily basis, so my Fiance and I will each have solid matching bands made.  The commitment and love my Fiance has given me means more to me than some ring and I think a lot of people forget about that.

There are a lot of threads on this.  People usually get flustered about these things.  Like with anything, I’ve noticed a lot of bees like to compare their stuff to other people’s to make themselves feel better.  Just be happy with your choice and ignore the naysayers!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Asia_Leone – I agree with the birthstone. It seems this is becoming a more popular trend with using your birthstone or some other colored stone. My birthstone is a diamond as well so, sorry FI! hehe 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Asia_Leone: You do bring up a good point about it being lab-created. I doubt moissanite would widely be considered a diamond simulant if it were a naturally mined stone instead. Just like how some people choose white sapphires — obviously sapphires are a naturally occurring, earth-mined stone. They aren’t considered “fake” diamonds just because they are clear. But a lab-created sapphire would commonly be considered a “fake” sapphire. But like OP mentioned, many people have environmental concerns over any kind of mining, so lab-created would be a good choice for them. I do still think it’s a really harsh term to use and can be hurtful to people who chose lab-created stones with the best intentions.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Miss Tattoo:  Good for you for keeping a sense of perspective about the whole engagement ring thing!  NotFroofy and I chose not to have engagement rings at all.  Each of us has a plain gold band for the wedding ring.  The one NotFroofy gave me was inherited from her grandmother.  I like the sentimental significance.  I like how it looks.  And I like the fact that it symbolizes her desire to spend her life with me.  We are both perfectly happy with the rings we have, and don’t feel the need for a diamond.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I actually prefer lab created stones because I’m not a fan of mining and am concerned with the working conditions of mines as well as the environmental impact. Boo to any naysayers. I definitely got some weird reactions to my moissanite ring, but when you tell them the original was found in a meteor they get more intrigued. I think the negative reaction usually comes from people who’ve already shelled out thousands and when they hear there’s a sparklier, less expensive alternative that’s just as durable, they have to come up with some reason to feel better.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ditto Asia_Leone,

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I prefer colored stones/gemstones in general…I do not like diamonds. Mine’s a garnet and I’ve taken a lot of crap for it, but not diamond =/= “fake.” How rude of her to say that!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

How is something “lab created” fake? It under goes the same chemical reactions to make whatever stone as is found in nature, just faster and more precise, often resulting in a better stone. I’ve never understood how people can equate “lab created” to “fake”. The chemical composition is identical. Of course, saying a cz is a diamond is a whole ‘nother ball game, and I don’t agree with that. But saying a lab created sapphire isn’t a sapphire? Just silly.

At least the people working in labs creating these things are probably paid and have health benefits.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

At least the people working in labs creating these things are probably paid and have health benefits.

I love that.  Kudos to you!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would also like to point out that “lab-created” and “simulant” are not always the same thing. My engagement and wedding rings are made of lab-created blue diamonds. They ARE diamonds. They just were not mined, and instead were made by science!

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