Post # 1
I got word today that one of my cousins has been complaining to my other family members about how rude I was with my invite to her. It finally got back around to me like 2 weeks after she got it. The problem was that I addressed it to “John and Jane Doe” and she was flipping out that I didn’t include her children’s names (ages 16, 19,and 21). She was also upset that I didn’t invite her mother, who my uncle left when I was like 7 years old.
You know, that makes me mad. I’ve seen this cousin literlly 2 times in the past 18 years (she lives 20 minutes from me) and I honestly have no freaking clue what her kids’ names are. I’ve never spoken to any of them in my life because she hates this side of the family due to my uncle leaving her mom. They are lucky they got an invite at all. If my invite wasn’t formal or inclusive enough that it insulted you, then don’t come… don’t go gossip to the entire family and trash talk me. GET A LIFE.
Post # 3
Don’t let it get to you – there is always one family member that will throw a fit about one thing or another when it comes to the wedding. No use getting worked up over it 🙂
Post # 4
It sounds to me like she should be excited to be invited in the first place…
Post # 5
lol, I know… I’m just venting 🙂 Our wedding is casual and outdoors at a plantation so we didn’t stress on formalities.
Post # 6
Did you intend to invite her kids?
Post # 7
I think the most important lesson I have learned throughout my wedding planning process is this:
Some people just like to complain for the sake of complaining.
Seriously. Some people are just not happy unless they have something to bitch about. It sucks, but don’t take it to heart. She is the one with the problem.
Post # 8
I have never seen wedding invitations with the children’s names on it? I have been to over 32 weddings in my day and in 6.
I would probably respond when someone told me that with SO, others expectations are considered from very few, we don’t care about this it’s menial.
Post # 9
People always find something to complain about….
Post # 10
@Over the Moon: Since they are bascially all adults and men, I didn’t think they would want to come. And I dont’ know thier names or them personally. If it’s that important she could add their names to the RSVP. We deliberately left our RSVPs open ended so whoever wants to come can put their names down. They don’t come to anything else family related, so I just wasn’t thinking about it.
Post # 11
Oh, and not inviting her mother was deliberate. There would be a war at my wedding if my Uncle and his current wife saw his Ex-wife there. And in my opinion the new wife is much more awesome than that old gossiping bat, lol.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn
Lame. My friends who got married a few years back had a similar problem. The person that freaked on them went and complained to a local paper in an anonymous rant. Said they’re wedding idea was tacky, the invites (down to the font!) were ridiculous, and a slew of other idiotic drivel. Some people just want to cause drama. Don’t let her get to you and do your thang.
Post # 13
My mom has been pressuring me to invite some of my 2nd cousins. While I know they won’t say anything, she’s freaked out! My cousin has been married twice, (her first husband passed away due to cancer) she’s had 3 kids and never have I been invited to her weddings, or a baby showe or kids birthday!!
I’m still real nervous on how my family will take the “no kids” thing!! 🙁
Post # 14
I’d probably put word out in the family so that it would get back to her that she and her husband were really only invited as a formality anyway.
Post # 15
@abbie017: lol. Agreed.
We have lots of drama coming from everywhere about who is and isn’t being invited. And our invited havent even been SENT yet. Can’t wait…
Post # 16
I have literally never gotten a wedding invitation with my daughter’s name on it, even if it was a kid friendly service and reception. Who gets worked up over things like that?