- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
BF and I have been talking about adopting a kitten. I am all for it while BF is a little hesitant due to finances. He wants to but he’s trying to decide if we should wait until we get an apartment together in January.
While I kind of want to get the kitten now because…well frankly, I tend to be an impatient person lol and I just want the kitty now. However, I do think it’ll be easier to get it now than trying to adopt a kitten once we move in together. Once we move in, we’ll have a bunch of things to pay for like furniture, etc. Then add a new kitten on top of that which includes vet bills, supplies like food bowl, etc.
However, we do have a bunch of expenses coming up next month due to a vacation and out-of-town wedding that we’re going to. So that’s another reason why BF wants to wait. But I think we can handle the expenses even if we adopt the kitten now. If we adopt it now, we can spread the vet bills and shots out over time so it won’t be as bad. Like we can wait until after June to get all the shots done, etc.
And another reason why BF is sort of on the fence is because he’s afraid that the kitten won’t bond with him. And that the cat will be more like mine and my roommate’s cat instead of mine and BF’s cat. I disagree because BF is over at my place a good bit anyway so the kitten will have plenty of opportunities to bond with him and become his cat too.
ANYWAY. I explained all this to my roommate last night and she was like “Why don’t you just get the kitten? Why do you need your BF’s approval?”
I said, “Well we are moving in together in January…so he is gonna have to live with the kitten at some point and I want us to decide together since this will ultimately be our cat.”
My roommate just rolled her eyes and thought I was crazy. Basically her line of thinking is that BF and I don’t live together, we’re not married, so therefore I am free to do whatever I want even if that includes adopting a kitten.
I disagree with her because BF and I are planning on getting married someday. When you’re that serious with someone, you have to take them into account when it comes to big decisions like adopting a pet. Even if you’re not living together or married yet, you still have to consider them and what they want.
Do y’all feel the same way? Do you think I’m right? Btw my roommate is not the first person to say this. Weirdly enough, BF and I’s mutual friend (who is a woman and is married) thinks I can do whatever I want and adopt the kitten, regardless of what BF wants. I’m sorry but I think that’s crazy! What do y’all think?