(Closed) If not white…what friggin’ color…crazy monster in law

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

who is she?? she’s like that b/c you’re marrying her precious little boy ~ and what will people say if you’re wearing white but it’s obvious you have kids, meaning you’ve lain down with another man, etc…  shocker!! scandal!!  (sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm)

i hate when people dont or cant change with the times! 

gurl, stick to your guns – wear what you want to!  while ur at it add a pair of red satin shoes under there for a little kick! 😉

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

yeah sometimes "the olds" aka our parents and FMILs are used to how things were when they were growing up

my father thinks my fh isnt good enough for me – he’s divorced with one kid… i’m like "hello – he’s 34 – there arent alot of guys who arent either divorcd or have a kid or both in our age group" 

but i also understand that my father had something else envisioned for me  – i am his only child i’m sure he didnt daydream that i was going to be an instant step-mother and someone’s "2nd wife"… i myself could give a rat’s azz b/c i adore, respect and am so "prime time" in love,  and i’m more laid back and mellow than my father…

but my dad is old-school… in lieu of attending our wedding, he offered to pay for it all (for both weddings almost $100K) – we declined his offer… my dad still put the lump sum in my bank account…  i guess that’s his way of a compromise??

try and be patient, this isnt the first time she’s going to "meddle"… i’m sure one day she’ll be in your kitchen rearranging your cupboards and sh!t… ok maybe not, but i did have a gf whose Mother-In-Law did that…

hang in there hon!!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

She’s apparently not that well-versed in the history of the tradition, which has nothing to do with indicating virginity.  The tradition is supposed to have started with Queen Victoria, and indicated nothing more than incredible wealth, as a white dress was a very impractical thing to own since it was very hard to keep clean (even during the process of making it). 

And seriously, if the white dress really advertised virginity, I’m betting the majority brides today would be ineligible.  If she doesn’t realize that, she’s been living in a closet.

She’s just being a judgemental old bi-atch.  Don’t pay any attention.  Just let her know (and have your Fiance do the same) that you’re not interested in discussing it any more. And seriously, do have him talk to her.  She’s his mother; it’s his job to control her – just the same as it would be your job if your family was giving him crap about something.

Post # 8
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

throw them off track and if they get snippy with you, turn to them and ask "Do you need a hug today? You seem so stressed over my wedding! Dont worry your son/brother and I have it all under control.. Come here and let me give you a hug!" works every time!  hahahaha

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Oh well, if its phone harassment, just do the cell-phone thing – I’m so sorry, you totally cut out there.  I didn’t hear any of that.  Can you tell me again?  Nope, nope, still can’t hear you.  Are you going through a tunnel?  What, you’re not on your cell phone?  That’s so odd.  Neither am I!  I’ll have to call the phone company.  Ever since we switched to digital…

Although the hug thing does work!  I gave my crazy Future Sister-In-Law a big hug at Christmas and told her how happy I was she could be here with us (after I know she spent hours raggin on Fiance about WHY did I have to be there) and I told her I just knew all our future Christmases were going to be so much fun! 

She burst in to tears and ran out of the room.  I’m totally serious.  I’m planning on giving her a big old hug and a kiss if she pulls any crap at the wedding.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2007

You could always let her decide:

A.  The white-esque and beautiful ivory gown you’ve chosen.

or

B.  A black leather teddy, thigh highs, and a whip.

Seriously though, your attire should be none of her business.  It may be a good idea to have your fiance say something to her IF she brings it up again, but not to the point where there is conflict between them.  I know it seems like a big deal now, but let’s face it – nothing she can do or say will make you change your mind and I know you probably want her approval, but sometimes there’s just nothing that you can do.  Let it be what it is and don’t allow her to steal your joy.  You’re decision is what is best for you (and perfectly acceptable IMHO).  Keep doing your own thing and the more she knows that you’re not going to let it bother you, the less she will gripe.  ((Hugs)) 

 

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