(Closed) If one more friend on facebook gets engaged….

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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30 posts
Newbee

amandab82:  I feel you!! I’m 29, he’s 35, we’ve been together for 3.5yrs and we have an 8 month old (with his last name) it stings a bit knowing he hasn’t been saving for a ring. He keeps saying ‘one day’ and refuses to go to the courthouse because it’s not what he has envisioned in his head, but really? I feel like he’s stalling. If money is the issue (as he’s said it is) we can do it for cheap, heck I’ve already said I’d be just as happy if he did it with a ring pop! Of course I want the whole nice day, a beautiful ring, a kick a$$ party and all, but it’s not what it’s really about. I refuse to bring it up anymore, instead I’ve started a pinterest file for wedding ideas and plan on ‘asking’ him in a few years if he hasn’t asked me. If it comes to that then he can get me a ring for an anniversary down the road when he can afford it. Don’t get me wrong, I WANT the ring LOL, I want him to propose, I want the works but in the end I just want the formality of it. I guess guys just don’t understand that it’s security, it’s having the same last name as your child(ren) and it’s NOT pointless no matter how long you’ve been together. Stay strong, I’m hoping your guy is just trying to throw you off while he plans a sweet surprise!! 

Post # 32
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5 posts
Newbee

 

wowndup:  He’s told me money isn’t the issue, but that he doesn’t get the point of it. He said we already have a house and a child together and that since we’re both already established in our careers, have everything we need in our home and there’s no need for a registery and wedding gifts that it seems silly. I’ve told him I just want something that symbolizes that we’re together for the rest of our lives and that we could go have a small destination wedding and just invite close friends and family and he said we’ll see, I’m not ruling it out. Ugghh so frustrating!!!!

I’m 33 and he’s 36.

  • This reply was modified 4 years ago by  amandab82.
Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

That’s the way I feel when I see people getting houses. We live in the Bay Area. Working on buying a house is … frustrating and humbling. I have friends who live in places with lower costs of living and they post pictures and stories of some funny thing someone did in their homes and I’m usually just looking at the house, drooling like Homer for a doughnut, and wishing people would move aside so I could see the house better.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club

I understand being jealous, but there’s no reason to let it consume you. There’s a wonderful new “unfollow” function on Facebook that I’ve fully taken advantage of since I started seriously “waiting”. Give it a try! You’ll block out all the subsequent congratulations and engagement pictures, without sacrificing your friendships. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I feel ya! Waited 9 years…but mine was worth the wait! And I knew WHY we were waiting – and it was a legitimate reason, and he stuck to his word and proposed when he said he would. I would suggest having a chat with him & deactivating your facebook – or give it up for Lent (even if you don’t celebrate Lent, now would be a good time to start since so many other are giving up things as well, and you’re likely to find support with that!)

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