Post # 1
When I was in my 20’s, there was a wave of engagements and marriages, and then there was a bit of a lull for a few years, with a few peppered in. Then, it seems like the last 6 months EVERYONE is getting engaged. I’m waiting, and have been perfectly fine until the last month when 3 engagements happened. Aughhhh!!!
I’m 35, its MY turn now! 🙂 No more of my friends are allowed. 😉 Of course I’m kidding, but do you ever feel like this?
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat. So frustrating. Hang in there! 🙂
Post # 5
I’m 35 and got engaged last month. I’m the very last of my friends so I know exactly how you feel. The positive side is that I have so many friends who know so much about planning a wedding and actually seem to enjoy it and are really into helping out. This is great because although I want my wedding to be great I do not find the planning process enjoyable.
The worst was when my finance’s best friend got engaged and they had been going for a year less than us. I had NEVER nagged him about getting engaged, we had normal discussions about it. But when that happened I had a little meltdown. It involved a bottle of red wine and me crying and telling him that I would not be going to this wedding unless we were engaged. I was pretty embarrassed the next day but he thought it was amusing and told me I didn’t have to worry about that (he was right!).
I hope it all works out for you soon!
Post # 6
I definitely felt like that right before I got engaged. A whole slew of people did. Then a few got engaged after me and married before me, and I was jealous of that, haha. I hope your time comes soon!
Post # 7
I’m 28, and only 2 of my friends are engaged or married. But, everyone from high school is married (only know that through Facebook, don’t keep in touch with them in real life, though so I don’t count it).
I think the waves vary a lot depending on where you live and your lifestyle. Most of my friends have just finished up their PhDs, so it was obviously not a good time for the last 6 years or so, and we were all way too young to get married before that!!
Post # 8
kimm99 : I had a mini meltdown last friday, after a friend of mine got engaged, and she nagged him to death about it. I just said I’ve been watching friends get engaged since I was 21 and was afraid to be the last one, which I am now. It was a good talk though, and I’ll be getting my own engagement soon, I just have to wait a bit more.
Post # 9
Sigh I am in that “last woman standing” boat. Even the crazy girl aquaintance girl got engaged before me! That was when I had the melt down. Since then I’ve been through another engagement, a marriage, and a new baby. I am having a hard time waiting especially as 34 is creeping up on me.
Post # 10
Yessssssssss I felt like this this summer it was not good .. I cried at one point..to myself lol but I did and yes im still waiting .
Post # 11
My Fiance and I will be 23 when we get married this August. Most of our friends range from 20 – 25 years old… Now, my Fiance is a very outgoing person with lots of good friends. Maybe 2/20 good friends of his even have girlfriends, much less wives. We are the very first of any of our friends to even consider marriage! They all keep telling us we’re crazy!
I don’t know why they can’t keep girlfriends. Of the eight friends that are invited to our small wedding, only one has a girlfriend, and he recently told me not to put her name on the invite because he wants to break up with her. 😛
I have no idea why nobody I know is getting married. None of my relatives are getting married either… the last wedding was a long while ago. I am all alone in wedding land, but I have decided to take this as a positive. Every over done wedding cliche is brand new and original to my guests, as most of them haven’t been to a wedding for years, some never as an adult. They thought my idea for magnet save the dates was so super original and special… heheheh.
At the same time, I am kind of jealous of people like all of you with friends that are getting married. I wish I had a friend that was into weddings and interested when I talked about it with them. 🙁
Post # 12
I’m 24 and the SO is 26, and we have a handful of married friends. The others are pretty split down the middle, either in a serious relationship or happily single/dating around.
I’m guessing that over the next few years that will change. I remember years ago when my sister got married, she was 25, and all the other bridesmaids were close to her age. Every other bridesmaid was either married or engaged. Judging by the paths my friends are on now I think I’ll see the same thing happen.
Post # 13
I’m 24 and two of my friends have gotten married and that was only last year. One of my friends and her SO (after only 4 months!) have put an engagement ring on lay by. One of my SO’s friends is already married and expecting his first child whilst the other is marrying his partner (term we use in NZ to describe defacto relationships where the couple are living together and have children) next year.
However, whilst there are a lot of weddings and engagements happening, a number of my friends are still single with some yet to have their first serious relationship so I’m fortunate in that there’s no external pressure to get hitched lol.
Post # 14
@hassle_J: I feel like this right now! My BFF just got married a few weeks ago. My other BFF got married in August and I had to be a bridesmaid. Don’t get me wrong, I was happy for her, but dammit, when is it gonna be MY turn! LOL I’ve been waiting 6.5 years 🙂
Post # 15
My man and I only know 2 couples that are engaged and 1 married couple. However, we’re also the most ‘settled’ couple out of everyone we know and we’ve known we were going to be with each other since we got together (we’ve been extremely good friends for 8 years before that). So we’re okay with being one of the first, in fact – he says quite proudly that we’ll be one of the first engaged couples we know. 🙂
Post # 16
It used to bother me, especially SO 2 friends got engaged and combined hadn’t been together as long as we have. But now one is getting a divorce and the other is still engaged. No other of his friends are married or engaged and only 2 of mine are.
It took a while but I have realized that just because someone gets engaged doesnt mean it will last, that they are any happier than you etc. Every relationship is different and people’s timelines are different and move at different paces.
BUT it took me a very very long time to get to this way of thinking (maybe because i know he is proposing soon and we are getting married in September). Trust me, I hear ya and just hang in there!