(Closed) If one more person asks….

posted 11 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I hated “Are you knocked up yet?”   The fact is that, yes we were… but it was no one else’s business until we made it so.

Post # 17
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@hergreenapples:  I agree, but I was guilty of this when people I knew were getting married.  Now I realize how annoying it is!

I’m hating the planning process and I have a problem of telling people exactly how I feel.  I end up telling them that I hate the process and that it’s very stressful.  Then I get the pity looks….oh just ask for help, or oh, it’s will all come together.  Yeah no kidding it will, because I’ve busted my ass on it!

That sort of turned into a vent….

Post # 18
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1801 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh the “how’s married life?” question is just strange!  It’s normal.  We share space and stuff, but not a ton has changed.  And it sure hasn’t changed from when you asked me 2 weeks ago. 

I’m also starting to get the babies question lately and I quickly explain that kiddos are a long ways out until I’m done with my masters and law school. 

Post # 19
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1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t mind the “how’s married life?”  To me, it’s the same as the generic “How are you?” but a touch more personalized.  What I hate is people asking us when we are going to have kids.  I keep trying to come up with good responses.  Next time I am asked, I want to say, “Oh, we don’t discuss our sex life in public,” but I will probably chicken out.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

I actually like answering the HOW’S MARRIED LIFE question, but then I think I start telling them more than they want to know.

Now it’s always, WHEN ARE YOU DUE? ( I should say, Why, are you going to get us a present?)

or DO YOU KNOW IF IT’S A GIRL OR A BOY? (a girl, so they say but you never know until it pops out)

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@guitargirl:  funny! you should! 🙂

Post # 21
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Private home

For several months after I got married, when people would ask me the inevitable, “How’s Married Life” question, I’d respond, ” I Wouldn’t know.”

After they got a wonderful shocked look on their face, I’d explain that my husband is a CPA and I haven’t seen him for more than a few hours at a time.  By the time tax season ended, no one cared anymore.  Though I totally feel the “when are you having babies” questions – I got sick at a friend’s wedding and the first thing she asked is, are you pregnant???  No, just one too many cocktails and not enough food at your cocktain hour!

Post # 22
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

People keep asking me if I feel any different. It’s like “Well I have a sinus infection at the moment so I don’t feel anything other than crappy. When I start feeling like an old married woman I’ll let you know.”

Post # 23
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2777 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I hate the “so, how’s married life” question too! It’s like I’m meant to have up-ended my life just because I got married. I’ve been saying “Eh, the same really” and people usually drop it.

Post # 24
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171 posts
Blushing bee

baby? house? moving to suburbs?

Put that on an endless loop  and playback for the last 2 months. The answer is NO to all. 

I dont know how to answer the “Hows married life?’ question. I feel like people are expecting a change even though we lived together before we were married. 

Post # 25
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1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

“When are you going to have a family?”

 

People just don’t understand how much angst this question causes.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@maryjane: I’d respond to that, “what do you mean? I already do.”  Since when is a married couple not a family?

Post # 27
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Honey Beekeeper

I feel bad because I’ve totally asked friends how it is to be married. I don’t ask to be annoying…I ask because I care and I’m excited for them!

*sheepish grin*

Post # 28
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4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Mrs. DG: Some guy asked DH if he’d “knocked me up yet” on our honeymoon. Rude but we were all drinking and it was pretty funny.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve been getting “how’s married life?” and “when are you going to have babies?” ever since my wedding!!!  I just smile and say “okay” or “maybe next year”.  I’m not sure what to say!

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