(Closed) If one more person asks….

posted 10 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
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850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Why is it like 2 seconds (literally!) after announcing our engagement, people were asking if we picked a date. Seriously – I called some family members and said “He just proposed!” and their very next question was “So when’s the wedding?” HOW THE HELL SHOULD I KNOW? I JUST regained the ability to form full sentences, let alone pull out a calendar and compare it with everyone else’s. Sheesh!

Post # 33
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30 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

“Aren’t you guys having babies yet?  Or trying?” And when we say “No, we would like to get a dog first” they reply “Why no kids?”  Holy cow, we have only been married for two months AND I am trying to finish up my PhD (which is enough pressure as it is). 

Post # 34
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5282 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yep the whole “when are you going to have kids” question.

We don’t want kids ever, and this starts a string of other questions or statements like “wait and see” “you’ll change your mind” or “thats how I was” really? Because if “thats how you were” yet we are the same age & you already have two kids, yeah, that makes sense!

Post # 35
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152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Our wedding is 3 days away, and I swear if I hear one more person say “looks like your going to have beautiful weather for your day” I am seriously going to scream!!!

Worst part is I know they are just trying to be nice, but I hear it 50 times a day!

Post # 36
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I really hate “So when do you want to have kids?” Just because we want to get married doesn’t mean it’s so we can have kids. It’s going to be at least 5 years, thanks. 😛

Post # 37
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@bunnyfoofoo:  I completely agree!  I’ll admit – I totally did it to other people until I became engaged myself – then I realized how entirely stupid it is to ask someone when the wedding date is when they’ve been engaged for…hmm…less than a week?  People would ask all of the time when we first were engaged and I would come right back with – we don’t have a date yet.  We’re just enjoying our engagement of …three days. 🙂

Post # 38
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25 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t mind the how’s married life. I always tell them I love being married. We didn’t live together before we married so it really is different. That combined with the fact that we moved across the country (and away from our family) makes it drastically different from before we were married.

We did, however, move close to DH’s grandparents. His grandmother always asks “So when are you gonna start a family?”. We always plan something to say ahead of time. One time it was “We already have one.”, another time we told her a random date. She knows we are waiting till we are ready, but she insists on asking anyway, so we are pretty sarcastic about it.

Post # 39
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

People ask so….when are you having a baby?! HELLO! We have been married for 3 weeks….give me some time…lol!

Post # 40
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820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I still get asked how married life is a year and a half after our wedding! FWIW, to those who say they feel bad for asking, its not so much the question that bothers me – so don’t feel bad- it’s the fact that people are ALWAYS asking that same question! We haven’t gotten a ton of “When are you having babies?” because I’m in school but I know the minute I’m done it will hit. Speaking of, another annoying one for me is “How’s school?” Because I have to explain stuff so many times… We were at a party the other night and I got asked that question about 15 times in 3 hours. The first 2-3 I explained how I’m almost done, working on my dissertation, etc etc. But by the 15th time, school was just “Good!” – I feel like I did the same thing with the Married Life question- first few times I elaborated, contemplated, compared it to non-married coupledom… but that 4th time or so, all bets were off! It was just “Great!”

Post # 41
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903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Haha…my husband and I got asked that question ALL THE TIME. It was annoying because our first year was actually pretty hard, but it always felt like they wanted to hear something like “fantastic! Great! the best time of my life!” But I know they were just trying to make conversation 🙂

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