Post # 182
Oh wait, I am not done.
“What airport should I fly into?”
Look, we sent you a save-the-date with a URL on it to a website we made just for these travel questions. We also included that URL on the invites themselves. We arranged for a travel agent to help you with your questions.
Post # 183
“What’s your wedding date again?” What’s the point of sending any type of save-the-date if people don’t even bother marking it on their calendars!
“Cupcakes, really?” Yes, they’re cute, easy, and cheap.
“How’s the planning going?” STRESSFUL! Unless you want to hear me go on for hours, don’t ask. I guess they expect a quick answer, but it’s not quick; it’s complicated!
Post # 184
“Are you ready” Maybe this phrase annoys me only because EVERYONE asks it. No, I’m not ready today. I still have 75 days to GET ready. Trust me, by October 10th, I’ll be ready.
“I better get an invite” Really?! Or else what? We won’t be close friends? Oh wait. We’re not close. That’s why you didn’t get a Save the Date.
“Are you excited?” Again – it’s the fact that I’ve been asked this question 4,327 times – it’s not such a bad question, but the more I get asked the more I want to sarcastically respond “not really”
Thanks for the vent! Great post.
Post # 185
I actually just got preached at, not an hour ago, for what felt like an age by Future Sister-In-Law on how we should and shouldn’t spend money on our wedding.
“Why did you book that photog, that’s shockin expensive?”
Because the feckin dinner will cost 6 grand and will be forgotten an hour after its ate, while I’ll have me gorgeous pics for fifty odd years!! Silly bloody woman
Post # 186
From my mother every time I mention a DIY project I’m working on: “Why are you doing ______________??!?!?!” Ummm because I want to. Because I don’t have a lot else to do. Because I love doing it. Because it’s my wedding. Because it’ll look gorgeous. So I suggest you stop questioning every single little thing I do before I tear you a new one. I know she wants to save me time and she’s not a “details” person, but she makes me feel bad for wanting those details and enjoying doing them! It makes me INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 187
@aunt pol: I don’t even share how much our photography cost because it’s an arm and a leg too. If people ask I just say “Oh his prices have gone up since we booked him, I’m glad we got in while we did.” Ya none of your business. Photography was my one HUGE splurge and thankfully I can afford it, so keep your nose out of my business.
Post # 188
@7SEVENJ9: I get the exact same thing. Funny thing is, I don’t know when it switched from people telling me “don’t worry, you have so much time” when I made simple inquiries and “wow! it’s coming up fast. are you done??” By The Way, we got engaged in March.
My mom’s favorite “I guess it’s YOUR wedding . . .” whenever I do something she doesn’t approve of.
Post # 189
@Miso: Our moms should hang out…
Post # 190
Weight loss: A bit after we got engaged I had some serious personal crises and ended up with a colitis flare (not fun) and lost a lot of weight fast. Everywhere I went I heard, “You look great! You’re really losing weight for the wedding.” Uhm. If you only knew.
@bakerella Seriously. She has channeled Emily Post. I do have to hand it to her, I’m the youngest of three girls — both of whom got married 20+ years ago (they got married young, and well, I’m not ahem nearly as young) when she planned every last detail of their wedding. So, she is showing some restraint . . .
Post # 191
@Miso: Maybe we could channel some of your mom’s excess Emily Post into my mom’s complete lack of interest and then look of “why do you care so much?!” when I do tell her/show her things. I would love to have a mom who was slightly interested. It’s funny because she offers to help, but when I tell her what I’m doing she’s so put off by it I just tell her to forget it and do it myself. Sigh.
Post # 192
“You have lots of time!”
Yes, I realize I have 10 months, but I am also a major planner/worrier, so getting things done now is kind of important to me, so I don’t have a mental breakdown later!!!!
Also, any sentence that begins with “Well, you HAVE to… blah blah blah” UGGGGGH. I am sick of people telling me I have to have certain things at our wedding.
Post # 193
@VirginiaMarie: Haha, I love this post as well! My sentiments exactly!
I only wish you not to worry/distress so much and find some time to enjoy it. People say the dumbest stuff and it feels good to give them some attitude sometimes.
Post # 194
I’m tired of ..
If I am mid-crisis telling me to calm down helps nothing and really just pisses me off more. Seriously, shut you face and go do something productive, like bringing me a glass of wine.
“When are you having kids?”
I don’t know, when are you going to stop asking asinine personal questions? For the record, we’re waiting until most of my student loans are paid off before we attempt to bring another life into this world. Because, gosh, I don’t know — I don’t want to have to default on my loans to pay for formula? How about this: you write me a check for $65 grand and then we’ll get right to the baby-making. Also? Stop asking personal questions that involve my uterus. When did this become okay? My SIL has a one year old and another due in December, go play with those kids and stop pestering me.
“What?? No bouquet or garter toss? Whyyyyyy?”
Because 99% of our friends are already married leaving like 1 person to catch the bouquet; that’s real nice of us. Because my Mother-In-Law pushed me out onto the dance floor at a relative’s wedding to catch the bouquet when I had a f-ing ring and a date and it was mortifying. Because that tradition is stupid. Because two of my friends are waiting patiently for their boyfriends to propose and forcing them out there will really make them feel like re-fried ass. Because it’s our f-ing wedding and we can do what we want.
“Why aren’t you walking down the aisle to ‘Here Comes The Bride?'”
Because I don’t feel like it.
Post # 195
@CupcakeSprinkles – something useful like bringing me a glass of wine!! I love your style!
@Miso, yes, our moms should hang out. My mother can’t wrap her head around why I am so “concerned” about finding “a freakin’ pair of shoes”… um, maybe because I’ve been a shoe-aholic my whole life, so why would my wedding day be any different? Or maybe because I can control that aspect of wedding planning while the rest of the drama gets at me from every angle? Ever think that shoe shopping could be an escape? “They’re just freakin’ shoes, no one is even going to see them, so why do you care???” Um… I will see them in the pictures I’ve requested my photographer specifically to take… And shut up. Why do YOU care?
Post # 196
@CupcakeSprinkles: “Why aren’t you walking down the aisle to ‘Here Comes The Bride?'”
People really ask that?? Who wants to walk down the aisle to that? 😛