Post # 1
Just that. If at any point in your relationship sex sucked, whether because it was infrequent or the technique, did it get better?
I don’t mean there was a dry spell due to LDR, stress from work, kids, illness, etc. I mean you weren’t on the same page and now it’s better.
If you care to share details of what the issue was and what you did to improve it, please do.
Post # 3
Lol.. Wow did I ever misread the title on this topic !!
Too funny…. because I believe that
Sucking ALWAYS makes it better.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say it ever “sucked” but I think communication is key here for anyone looking for improvement. If you’re not on the same page, you need to be able to tell him what you need (whether that is an increase in frequency or a different technique) because otherwise he’ll never know.
Post # 5
Well with my ex – the sex started out ok-ish, rqpidly declined and never got better. Hence why I had a lover!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
HA! Yeah– we’ve been through a few of these over the years…
The longest was a misunderstanding that happened between us. Essentially, it boils down to my not liking something he did, and I got mad and left to pout for a few hours, when he realized I was gone, he came out to apologize but I had gotten myself so worked up that I thought his motives behind what he did was to “take advantage” of me and he was more concerned with apologizing and making me not mad anymore that he didn’t correct me. Anyway, I spent almost 2 years battleing trust issues because I thought he had taken advantage of the situation on that night; and the more time that passed the less he wanted to bring it up. Finally– he was invited on a talk show as a guest for that particular “interest” and he finally worked up the courage to ask me about it; I told him I was still pretty upset over it (again yesrs later) and that was almost the end of the conversation all over again; but I pressed the issue wanting him to “explain hemself” (i.e. I wanted a better apology) and when he finally did explain his motives and mindset my whole perception of the event changed. We spent 2 over years with trust issues regarding intimacy together purely because we couldn’t communicate properly.
We’ve also gone through phases where one of us wants to try something new, or gets into it for a while and the other isn’t really on board– but we’ve always worked it out in the end.
Post # 7
Our first time was so awkward and not the least bit enjoyable. Neither of us had been with anyone for about six months, so I guess we just had to find our groove. It improved after the first couple of times.
Post # 8
With my current guy, the sex is always great.
My ex? It was pretty good some days, okay most days, and downright sucky other days.
It really didn’t get better, and by God, I tried.
It really came down to the fact that we didn’t have chemistry.
Post # 9
It sucked when we first started because neither of us knew what we were doing, but we learned! So yes, it definitely got better.
Post # 10
@redheadem: <– That.
We were both eachother’s firsts (wayyyy pre-wedding night, lol) so we had to learn together. That in itself made it not so great the first few times or not so great when we tried something to find out we didn’t like it. But overall, good. 🙂 Our wedding night sex was HOT. 😉 Years of experience together finally. hahaha.
Post # 11
@AmeliaBedelia: First few times?! Our sex life sucked for months!!! Haha. But yes, luckily that was waaay pre-wedding night!
Post # 12
COMMUNICATION. Our first time was horrible. He was so rough!! I had to take it like a champ LOL. But I told him what I wanted and vice versa and now it’s so much better LOL.
Post # 13
@redheadem: I was being generous. 😉 We had a few fairly good times during the first few months, but not consistently, ya know? The consistency is what picked up for us with our experience together. I like knowing that we know what to do to please eachother. I think that’s a part of the draw of monogamy.
Post # 14
@This Time Round: we have dirty minds. i thought the same thing.
to be honest, sex has always been great from the very first time. it’s only 3-4 times a week now but still amazing. don’t criticize me but if it wasn’t good from the start, i probably wouldn’t have married him.
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Our first few times were awkward, nervous, and a little blah. But it improved greatly, and we have some fun times!