Post # 1
An aquaintance of mine asked me where I was registered, and asked me to send her the link when I first got engaged. I told her we are doing a honeyfund, and I sent it to her. The other day, I saw her and she bought me a $25 Bed Bath and Beyond Gift card. Now we are ready to send out our Save the Dates, and our guest list is too big. In your opinion, am I obligated to invite her? I’m not very close with her, so if she never asked me, I wouldn’t have thought to put her on the list. She’s a sweet woman, and I will definitely send her a nice thank you card.
Post # 3
Nope, it’s not like people are purchasing tickets to your wedding. I’ve given gifts to weddings when I haven’t been invited.
Post # 4
Thanks, I feel the same way. I have people who I really care about that didn’t invite me to their wedding, and I wasn’t hurt. I understand that there must be a limit, and between the grrom and bride’s family and friends, 100 guests is not really enough, because we care about so many people, but it is what we can afford.
Post # 5
I agree that you are not obligated to invite her and you can send her a nice thank you and move on.
Post # 6
@cieritaqt: I think that if you’re willing to tell someone where you’re registered, and willing to accept a gift from that person, you should invite him or her to the wedding.
Post # 7
Why did you forward a link to your registry if you weren’t going to invite the person?? You could have upfront declined and told her it was a small affair and the kind thought was appreciated.
Post # 8
It’s not like she randomly bought you a gift and gave it to you or even found your registry on her own. You had the opportunity, when she inquired about your registry, to say, “Oh that’s so sweet of you. I don’t need a gift, really. That’s totally unnecessary. Thank you though.” I had people wanting to buy me a gift and wanted to know where I was registered and this is how I responded.
Post # 9
I agree — when non-invitees ask you about your registry, thank them for the thought and tell them that you don’t need anything. Then if they give you a gift ANYWAY, that’s on them.
Are you obligated to invite her? No. But I don’t get why you were comfortable telling her how she could buy you a gift when you weren’t going to invite her. Personally, that would make me feel bad about not inviting her after that and I would probably extend an invite.
Post # 10
@cieritaqt: I have a former coworker who knew she wasn’t invited to my wedding and asked me for my registry information. Just because someone gives you a gift does not mean you have to invite them. You didn’t ask her for a gift, she asked for the info and you gave it to her. She’s an adult and decided to spend her money to give you something. Send her a nice thank you card as you would anyone else who gave you an unsolicited gift.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I think that since you were okay with telling her where she could go to buy you a gift, you should invite her… but that’s just me.
Post # 12
I’m with some of the others sending her a link to where your registered is like inviting her even if she asked for it.
Post # 13
@cieritaqt: nope that’s okay. I’m sure she understands.
Post # 14
@W292737: thank you. I’ve decided to send her a nice thank you card. Now I’ve learned a lesson to think things out before responding to someone. I was just excited when we got engaged.