Post # 31
theonlywayisorange : Since in your OP you didn’t mention you being worried that your best friend’s feelings would be hurt you seem only concerned with your sister im guessing your best friend wouldn’t be hurt. So if you decide with eloping and you really don’t want to hurt them just do parents and siblings.
Post # 32
So my sister basically eloped. She went to the courthouse and got married spur of the moment with her then bf. She called my parents last minute because they live in the same town and they went. I live about an hour and a half away and yea I was hurt. That’s a huge moment and I’ve always been so involved in her and her childrens lives, I would have drove the hour and a half to be there for something like that. Her doing that basically made me feel, and I still feel, that it wasn’t important to her that I be there. I’m not actively mad about it and I never said anything to her but just because you are the one getting married doesn’t mean it gives you this free pass to do whatever and people can’t have a reaction to it.
Post # 33
I got to have the wedding I wanted. I would want the people I love to have the wedding they want too.
I feel like people who take it personally are making someone else’s day about them, tbh
Post # 34
theonlywayisorange : To clarify I’m not saying that inviting siblings is right for your situation, but that it would be for my family. Personally, I think that limiting to immediate family (parents and siblings) is the cleanest. Once you start inviting friends and extended family, people are more likely to be offended if left off the guest list.
Post # 35
“So if you decide with eloping and you really don’t want to hurt them just do parents and siblings.” Well then its not eloping, just a very small wedding . I think OP should do just as she and fi want and go and do it already ! Have no one there, ie a real elopement and not giving the date , is the way to go.
So what her sister doesn’t like surprises , it’s not a surprise aimed at her anyway .
Post # 36
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
My brother and sister in law eloped, my close family of course wanted to see a wedding but we were all understanding. Mom, still to this date (9 years after) would have liked a wedding.
After my brother’s elopement I’m the only person who wanted to get married from the family. As my older sister is highly likely to elope should she ever get married, my family rejected me and my fiance’s eloment ideas super strictly. They were like “We wanna see at least one wedding, you’re getting married in a traditional way, period!”. So, the immediate effects of my brother’s elopement wasn’t too over the top, but it was still enough to scare my family off from the idea. Anyways, that’s how it is.