(Closed) If someone else wore white…

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Ah, nothing?  Unless they physically wore another wedding dress and ran around saying “I’m the bride! I’m the bride!” I don’t see what the fuss is.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s pretty tacky and unnecessary to include that sort of statement in an invite.  I also don’t think it’s appropriate to ask people not to wear the wedding colors.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I wouldn’t do anything. I really wasn’t even paying that much attention to what my guests wore. I can’t believe your friend put that on their invitation! 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think I may be the only bride who doesn’t care what my guests wear, even white.

I wouldn’t dictate to my guests as to what they can or cannot wear.  

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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j9marie :  I’m with you! Unless they wore a white bridal gown, I’m pretty sure people won’t be confused on who the bride is.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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girlgt :  I had 3 guests wear ALL white…I did absolutely nothing. I thought, obviously they didn’t know any better lol.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Has anything bad ever happened in the history of the world, due to someone other than the bride wearing white at the wedding? Other than butthurt or manufactured drama, that is. You definitely can’t ban or require certain colors and it’s time for the taboo against white clothing to be done with, too. For such a source of high drama, the color of someone’s clothes doesn’t matter at all.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I’d consider it to be a request. who knows why she chose to put that on the invite, but it’s her invite and I guess I wouldn’t consider it to be a huge deal. I’ve heard stories where people seem to think they are supposed to wear the wedding colors, so many she was trying to clear up confusion.

people wearing white to weddings can be enough to cause some people to get really upset, maybe some relatives were likely to confront guests that would do so, stranger things happen at weddings!I’d just do what you can to not worry about it. Just one of those things.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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girlgt :  I’d be annoyed at the white dress, wedding colors not so much. I tend to pick dresses to wear to a wedding after glancing at the invitation, so when I get a purple and ivory invite I am assuming the bridal colors will be purple and therefore won’t wear white or purple, but that’s just me 🙂 I do think it’s rude to put on an invite though, I am assuming people are educated enough to know how to dress for a formal occassion like a wedding.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Living Desert Zoo and Gardens

I couldn’t imagine requesting people to not wear white… Just seems strange to me. However I’m considering asking guests to wear their favorite bright colors because I want it to look festive, so I suppose I’m on the other side, haha. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I wouldn’t wear all white to a wedding either, but if someone did wear white to mine I can’t say I would even notice. If someone wore white to a wedding, what would be achieved by “doing” anything about it? Either the guest’s move was inadvertent because they were unaware of the rule, in which case the bride would be an asshole for making an issue out of it, or the guest’s move was for attention, in which case the bride gives them exactly what they want by bringing attention to it. Lose-lose.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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prinzesschen :  You’d be surprised. At my great-grandmother’s funeral a relative wore a Cookie Monster tall-tee, basketball shorts and house shoes.

 

It’s pretty tacky to put that information on the invitation. If a guest showed up in bridal white to my wedding I’d be giving major side-eye in my head and I’d probably talk about it to my friends but I wouldn’t do anything; I would absolutely still be a gracious host.

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