(Closed) If someone has a fake diamond, would you tell them?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
  • poll:

    Yes, if they asked.

    Yes.

    Never.

    Only if it's a close friend or family member.

    Only if it's a close friend or family member and they asked.

    Only if the person blatantly lies about it.

    Only if the person tries to make other girls feel embarrassed about the size of their rings.

    Other.

  • Post # 32
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    Busy bee

    It’s none of your business and it’s also extremely rude to comment on whether or not someone’s ring is real. If the person wants to talk about their stone that’s another thing but if they don’t bring it up you shouldn’t either

    Post # 33
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    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t say anything, even if they were flashing it in other peoples’ faces, that makes them look insecure and like they have something to prove…. saying something about the ring being “fake” only makes you stoop to that level… so I would just smile and move on with life. Besides, “real” or not, anything that sparkles and you wear on your hand is pretty is my book!

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

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    @KatyElle: To me that would be one of the most rude things you could possibly do to someone who is excited about their engagement.

    ^^ This!^^

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    Nope, none of my business. People choose diamond-alternatives for a host of reasons, some of which are very personal, and I don’t think they have to explain their reasons to anyone. 

    Post # 35
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve definitely considered getting a CZ, because I’m worried about conflict diamonds. And, if I got compliments on it, I would definitely say “Thanks, it’s fake!”  But I know a lot of people wouldn’t be as comfortable sharing that it’s  not a diamond.  I would never call someone out on it.

    Honestly, I can’t tell the difference between Moissys, CZ’s, and Diamonds myself, so I wouldn’t be in a position to reveal this to someone anyway 🙂

     

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @blingbling- you sure do pop into many a ring thread lacking any sort of manners, tact or common sense. Simmer down honey, what is on someone else’s finger has no bearing on your life. 

     

    to the OP- No I would never say anything because it is rude, tacky and frankly unkind. I don’t make a habit of being any of the above to friends or strangers for that matter. Nothing good can EVER come out of questioning the realness of someone’s ring. It’s like a woman’s weight or apperance- don’t comment unless asked and even then tread lightly. 

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    HUH?! No…. for what purpose would one do such a thing?!?!?! 

    A non-diamond stone isn’t FAKE – it’s a different stone.

    But even if it WERE fake, so what!?!? I don’t comment on people’s wig or boobs either. 

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would never say anything because its none of my business.

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee

    None of my business, so no.  But I’ve had a few family members ask me to loupe their stones, and IF they asked I would give them my opinion.  Otherwise I just smile and say how beautiful it is.  I had one person ask me to look at their diamond, I know she paid a ton and it’s flawless but a weird (round) cut that I didn’t recognize.   Could be a sim that I hadn’t seen before, could just be a poor cut.  I didn’t say anything about it, of course.  I’m a big fan of CZ so I love to check out other rings.

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I probably would not. The only scenario where I could see saying something is if someone close to me showed me a ring, told me how much they paid for it and I had a good enough eye to tell they paid a diamond price for a simulant and I thoght they’d been unwittingly ripped off. 

    Post # 41
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t get why anyone would call someone out on that. Who cares what stone their ring is- as long as it means something to them!

     

    Plus– I really couldn’t tell the difference!

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    @blingbling: actually, a CZ is just as much a stone as moissanite is.  both are lab-made, yes, but both are minerals with crystalline structure.  glass is amorphous silicon, so something else entirely.  i think the term “simulant” is used to refer to a lab-created stone that is meant to look like something else, but that doesn’t make them “fake”…they’re still stones in their own right.

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted, “Only if the person tries to make other girls feel embarrassed about the size of their rings” I would NEVER ever call them out. but if they were making others feel terrible and they were calling them out… I might just have to say, oh I thought you had a SIM, my mistake, i never wanted to say anything, but now is the perfect time since your comparing sizing of DIAMONDs. 

    Post # 44
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @live laugh love: I voted the same. It really gets up my nose when anyone tries to make someone feel bad about their ring and it does make me want to tear a strip off them.

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    @allihappy: it’s none of your businessl. they most likely know and have their reasons for not saying it. pointing it out would just be rude and put them in an awkward position.

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