(Closed) If someone invites you to their wedding, are you requied to return the invite?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

No, you don’t have to invite her back.

Post # 4
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely not. You might want to make sure that she knows yours is small in an indirect way, but that should be enough.

Post # 6
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

No way.

Especially if you are purposely trying for a small wedding, and they are going for a “invite everyone, including the boss’ step-daughter’s boyfriend”.

I guess in the back of your mind you should always consider that maybe you will become closer and you might really really want her at the wedding.  Just something to think about.

Post # 7
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think, considering the circumstances, you are not required to invite her back. She is having a much larger wedding and yours is a more intimate one. Although this may be a potentially sticky situation, you should avoid inviting people just out of a sense of obligation. Have people at your wedding who mean the most to you as a couple.

Post # 8
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Nope, no requirement at all. It’s not tit for tat, it’s your wedding and you invite whomever you please! 🙂

Post # 9
2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

ahh i just typed up a whole long response and it disappeared for some reason! boo!

i think since you’ve been discussing weddings with her, you may want to invite her. i realized a couple months into planning that i either needed to stop talking to certain people about plans, or just go ahead and invite them. mainly coworkers who i was good friends with and who i was like, showing photographers’ blogs too, but i was worried if i invited them i’d need to invite all my coworkers…but i ended up inviting them.

but just out a reciprocity–no i don’t think you need to. your wedding is smaller, not in town, which are totally legit reasons. we didn’t invite a couple who had invited us to their wedding 8 months before ours. we’d been surprised that they invited us–we weren’t close and rarely even saw them. maybe they thought it was rude, but whatever, we never see them.

Post # 11
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

do you see yourself becoming better friends with her? do you hang out a lot? can your budget fit another couple? you definitely shouldn’t feel obligated to invite her, but you might bond a lot over wedding planning together!

Post # 14
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

No you don’t have to.

I recently got invitd to a wedding from people we didn’t invite to ours.  We went along and had a great night and no one felt awkward or said anything! 

Post # 15
4485 posts
Honey bee

No. You invite whomever you cannot imagine the day without. Who they invite is their business and an entirely different matter that does not apply to anyone but them.

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