(Closed) If the bride sent you this how would you feel?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@UK Bride: Thank you!  That was exactly my point in asking why the taller ladies were “requested” to wear flats.  

 

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@Loribeth: I think bakerella just meant the type of grounds for an outdoor wedding…as in the bridesmaids would need shoes to walk on grass, or stones, or perhaps pavement.  At least, that’s how I interpreted it 🙂

 

 

 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

So they won’t make other plans? Sorry, they know the date of your wedding; I don’t think they would be making other plans and should know to be flexible with schedules on that day. Sorry, it’s overkill to me and not necessary in my eyes.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@bakerella: Love the rework <3 <3 <3

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

@MuchGreater: Honestly, I LOVE your email. I am a very organized person and I like when I am apart of organized events. Your email sends the message that you are serious and that you want to get things done in a timely manner, yet you are still being nice IMO. If I were your Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would like getting something like this. I feel comfortable knowing exactly what is expected of me and where I need to be/what I need to be wearing.

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Loribeth: Ya I just meant if there’s gravel or grass that the BMs should be aware of for shoe type. I just wrote that rework off the top of my head.

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@MuchGreater: I think having one email with lots of info in it is a good idea, I just like a less business-like tone to it, they’re your friends, not co-workers. Personally, I prefer one email to several, it’s just easier to find said info.

And I agree, laying it all out there what time everything is and where they need to be is very important. The majority of my BMs had never been in a wedding before and didn’t underststand what a rehearsal dinner was/why they needed to be there, what time they needed to show up to get ready before the wedding, etc. I think spelling that out now is a smart idea. Are any of them staying the night in a local hotel? Or staying with you the night before the wedding? If so, you might want to put that in there too or at least the options that are available to them.

Post # 38
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I feel this is perfect, how else are you supposed to communicate what you expect. Your wedding day is not the time to be sugar coating what you want. Of course not being nasty, but straight forward. Good job! Organization pays off.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

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@MuchGreater: If you’re uncomfortable about the dresses, I would just make an executive decision. You heard what they had to say, and you took it into consideration. But there are too many opinions to let them all have what they want. Even if they all want the same thing… you have to like the dress, and within certain modifications, I think you should feel free to pick the dress (or a different dress). Baha, that’s what I did! I told them to vote on 3 out of 8 dresses. Everyone agreed on one dress… but when I saw it in person and saw that the color was not bright enough, I made an executive decision to get a completely different dress (not one of the 8) that was the right color, price, and style. They were fine with it.

I just wrote them an informal meeting saying, “Hey y’all! I looked at the dress in person and it didn’t come in the color I wanted. Because we need to make a decision soon, I decided on this one. It’s the perfect color and I like the style… plus it’s still the same price range, maybe less expensive even! Here are the details, and a picture, please order them by such and such date and let me know once you do. Thanks!”

 

 

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