Post # 17
For one daughter’s wedding, FIL’s paid for Rehearsal Dinner.
The other daughter’s wedding the FIL’s did a lot. They paid for the Rehearsal Dinner, photographer, DJ, suite for the wedding night, invitations and flights for the honeymoon…plus a $5000. gift.
Post # 18
FI’s family actually contributed more than my parents for the wedding – both sets of parents gave a set monetary contribution that we spent however we wanted to (we had to contribute about $3 – 4K of our own money too – most of which paid for our honeymoon). FI’s parents are also paying for the Rehearsal Dinner, above the money they already gave us for the wedding.
Post # 19
FI’s mom is covering the rehearsal dinner (buying and cooking the food) and our honeymoon.
Post # 20
My Darling Husband dad paid for the Rehearsal Dinner. But that was a surprise the night of. We planned it thinking we would pay, but then he took the check at the end of the night. It was very nice of him.
Post # 21
FI’s parents contributed a lot for our wedding. My mom is paying for our cake and flowers and FIs parents are doing the rest. We are very blessed!
Fiance & I paid for our Honeymoon and other little things
Post # 22
@magilnyc: That is a nice surprise!
Post # 23
Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law are divorced, but they are splitting the following:part of the flowers (bouts and bridal bouquet), Rehersal Dinner (actually going to be more like a big cookout – I’m pumped), and the officiant. Future Father-In-Law is contributing to our honeymoon as well.
Post # 24
My hubby’s dad paid for the rehearsal dinner (which was a BBQ). I think that is considered “normal,” at least by old-fashioned standards of who pays for what!
Post # 25
FI’s parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner plus 1 night of lodging at our venue, all the wedding party tuxes and the airfare for our Hawaiian honeymoon (they used their credit card miles). Future Mother-In-Law is also graciously hosting my bridal shower.
His parents are much better off financially than mine so we really appreciate all they are doing. My family is paying for our cake and we are paying for everything else ourselves.
Post # 26
FI’s family isn’t contributing anything, so we are having to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner if we want one since my family believes they are the ones to pay for the wedding and the grooms family pays for the Rehearsal Dinner and I forget what else my mom tried telling me. So I agree with other pp for just having a low key Rehearsal Dinner
Post # 27
Traditionally this is what the parents pay for.
the marriage license, officiant’s fee, corsages, boutonnieres, the bride’s bouquet, groomsmen gifts, liquor, and the reception DJ or band. And the bride’s parents pay for everything else. Then again, today’s guidelines of who pays for what are very flexible — many times, the parents of the bride and groom will split the wedding expenses in half, or sometimes into thirds, depending on whether the couple pitches in. In the end, the amount of money you contribute depends upon your financial situation and how much you’re willing to contribute.
However our parents don’t have the money to pay for anything. We are doing it all myself.
Post # 28
my in-laws paid for the rd, day-after brunch, and my hubby’s attire. my mil also threw me a shower
Post # 29
@kitzy: They originally were going to do a BBQ at their house. Now, their friends are insisting that isn’t good enough and are offering to cook a huge meal while we are at the church, etc… I personally would rather a BBQ, but now they have changed their minds.
They are also paying for the flowers (instead of just my bouquet, like planned 3 weeks ago) because “everyone” is telling them that is their duty. I have told them we have been prepared for the cost of the flowers, but they want to do the right thing.
I am going to suggest the BBQ idea again and maybe tell them that I know people who did it that way, so they don’t feel like they are being cheap. I hate thinking that the wedding is probably stretching their finances.
Post # 30
I wouldn’t insult them by making suggestions. They know what they can afford and I personally wouldn’t risk hurting their feelings . Let them do as they want and feel better about their contribution to you both.
Post # 31
My Mother-In-Law paid for our invitations, my Father-In-Law gave us a dollar amount he could afford and told us to put it where we needed it, and they both covered and cooked the rehearsal dinner cookout that we had.