(Closed) If the groom’s family paid for some things, what did they cover?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

FI’s family has gone way above and beyond in the ways of helping us financially for the wedding. We are so appreciative of them!

They are covering the florist, cakes, threw our engagement party, paid the deposit on our venue ($1000), rehearsal dinner, paying for a guesthouse for the bridal party to stay in for the whole weekend, and paid for our week long honeymoon.

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Father-In-Law gave us $10,000 to use however we wanted, no strings attached (which is really how I think it should be – never understood the parents who seem to think paying means they get to make all the decisions!)

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

They are divorced.

His mom might throw us a small party in his hometown, but she hasn’t confirmed this or mentioned it in a while.

 

She did a lot of the DIY (sewed the 2 bridesmaid dresses and the flower girl dress and  helped make the silk flower arrangements, bouquets, corsages, and boutenniers) for her other son’s wedding (Feb 26). I don’t think she contributed money for the wedding or honeymoon, but she did get them a gift.

His dad helped them with the music and pretty much MCed the reception. He also gave them a gift.

 

His family is also a lot closer to that daughter-in-law because she lives in the same town, but I do think they will give us a gift.

 

 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@crayfish:My parents are paying for the wedding and it is *definitely NOT* no strings attached. They want the wedding that they want to show us off. If we use less that the total budget, fine, but we don’t get the difference. If we ask to go over budget, they may say yes.

Still, I am happier with them paying and all the strings. It ends up more what I wanted than what we could have afforded with just the two of us.

Post # 37
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

FI’s parents are divorced and both remarried.  They are splitting the cost of the rehearsal dinner.  Also, Future Mother-In-Law is giving us $3,000 to spend how we choose, and Future Father-In-Law is giving us “what he can” on top of the rehearsal dinner.  I don’t anticipate it will be a lot, so I’m not really planning it into the budget.

My parents stress me out because they really are not well off financially, yet they insist on paying for the venue.  FI and I have been saving a good deal of money in hopes that they’ll let us help them, but who knows.  They’re really stubborn!

We’re paying for the other things like attire, decor, photography, DJ, flowers, etc.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

FH’s family is actually paying about double what mine is- his parents money is covering our wedding package through the venue, and $$$ from his grandparents was used to book our honeymoon, which is the majority of the entire wedding cost.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

FI’s parents are paying for our rehearsal dinner, morning after breakfast, and our honeymoon. My parents are paying for the entire wedding. They’re super generous and we’re very grateful. I would just accept the offer they gave you and be thankful — there’s probably no telling them no at this point without hurting their feelings as they’ve already decided. This is one time in your life that you have to learn to swallow the pride and accept gifts from others as reflections of their love for you 🙂

Post # 40
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1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

FI’s parents are divorced. His dad is very selfish and there is no way in a million years that I would expect him to pay for anything. His mom has already been more than helpful with her time and money. Besides, we live on our own and own a condo so we feel that it is only right for us to pay for it ourselves. 

My family is also paying for nothing, although my aunt and uncle are letting us use their character home for the wedding and reception.

Post # 41
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11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

His mom and dad split the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 42
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

H’s parents offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which was extremely generous of them.

My parents paid for most everything else because they pretty much had planned on it since I was born (college fund, wedding fund, ya know lol)

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i dont think anyone is obliged to pay for anything but my FI’s parents are paying for:

  1. rehearsal dinner
  2. bride’s bouquet, bridesmaids bouquettes, and all the corsages and boutinnieres
  3. getaway car
  4. 2 rooms for 4 groomsmen 
  5. room for our wedding night
  6. 40% of our honeymoon

my groom himself paid for his groomsmen’s tux rentals, officiant, marriage license, postage stamp, my e-ring and wedding band and the rest of the honeymoon.

http://www.ehow.com/about_5064222_groom_s-financial-responsibility-wedding-ceremony.html

http://www.topweddingquestions.com/topic/6072-grooms-family-financial-responsibilities/

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My IL’s are paying for most of the wedding.  They are taking care of the reception, florist, DJ, photographer, rehearsal dinner, and honeymoon.  My parents have given them $2k but have committed $5k, we’re giving them $4k, my grandparents gave me $1k for dress + whatever, and we are taking care of the rest. 

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My IL’s did a ton! They paid for our DJ, half of our cake, our cake topper and serving set, our programs, the rehearsal dinner, and our entire reception.

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

FI’s parents have offered to pay for our rehearsal dinner and flowers.

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