Post # 1
If the Grooms parents are hosting the Rehearsal Dinner are we still supposed to set it up and organize it? They live in a completely different state and his mother hates Texas for some reason so refuses to visit here (which is a rant for another post) so are we supposed to organize it and just have them pay the bill? How does this work?
Post # 3
I think it depends on how involved they want to be. I would just ask Future Mother-In-Law if she wanted to research venues or if she wanted you too since you know the area better. With ours, I looked at various venues and they came to a tasting with us to make the determination on the venue. Based on what you are saying though it sounds more like they won’t be travelling to try any of the venues you find.
Post # 4
My husband’s parents organized/paid for the rehearsal dinner all on their own. The only thing I did to help out there was address and send out the invitations – it was just easier because I had the whole list of people. I’m not sure how it works with the whole out of state thing, but in our case it was something that his parents wanted to handle for us. It shouldn’t be too hard if all it is is creating reservations somewhere though… My Mother-In-Law told me all she really had to do was decide what place she wanted it (so your Future Mother-In-Law could always look up things in the area online), make the reservation, then decide on the menu options.
Post # 5
Where I’m from, rehearsal dinners aren’t really a big to-do. They are basically just done at a local restaurant with little to no decorations or “extras” so I wouldn’t imagine organizing it would be too difficult. If she refuses to even visit there, then I would probably take the reins and make the plans just so your sure its something you want. For me, I love planning ANYTHING so it wouldn’t be an issue but if your kind of wedding planning’ed out, I can see how it would be the last thing you want to do. Good luck!
ETA: I probably should I have mentioned, my Future Mother-In-Law is handling all of the planning for our rehearsal dinner but we’re just having it at our favorite mexican restaurant so she doesnt need to do much more than call and make sure they have a table big enough for our party. Pretty simple stuff. By The Way, I am SOOO excited about our rehearsal dinner. Yumm, Mexican!!
Post # 6
My FIL’s are 4.5 hours away and don’t know Austin very well. Therefore, we are basically organizing the entire thing. It’s been a bit of a hassle, since its 60 people (out of 110 wedding guests), but in the end it’s easier if I organize it since I live here. We basically researched a bunch of venues, showed 2-3 to my FIL’s, and we all discussed our options, and then picked one.
We are taking care of the invites for the most part, as well as the RSVP’s…
Sometimes I feel like I’m planning two weddings 🙂
Post # 7
My Mother-In-Law hosted our rehearsal dinner. She pretty much organized the whole thing, although let me have a lot of input on the atmosphere we were looking for and the menu options. I designed, printed, and mailed out our invites and maps to everyone and we called it good! Since your FIL’s are out of state, you may want to give them some recommendations for venues, etc and offer to lend a hand (or assign this to Fiance to deal with).
Post # 8
I basically had to do all of the rehearsal planning, since my in-laws are currently in Japan. We had bbq catered in, since it was close to the July 4th holiday. I was able to pick out the invitations and decorations, which I didn’t mind. They paid for it all!
Post # 9
my in-laws completely planned it, aside from the venue and some other basic parameters (actually, they kept a lot of the details a surprise for me, which ended up being really adorable!). but i’d actually been really taken aback by that, i originally was bummed that they wouldn’t just let my husband and i take care of organizing it and just foot the bill. but i learned to let go. haha, i also discovered during the planning that i’m a lot more controlling than i’d realized 😉
so if i were you, i’d just ask them (or have your fi ask them) what they want to do.
Post # 10
My in-laws asked for venue suggestions, then took it from there.
Post # 11
I planned it all. My FIL’s are across country so it was just easier that way. And I’ll send out the invites. Probably through an evite or word of mouth. It’s only 20 people.