(Closed) If they bring a gift to shower they won't to the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you only bring a gift to one (bridal shower & wedding)? Or both?
    Both. : (93 votes)
    78 %
    One. Bridal Shower. : (16 votes)
    13 %
    One. Wedding. : (9 votes)
    8 %
    Other (please explain!) : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 32
    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted other because in my area its typical to give a boxed gift at a shower and cash to a wedding. So if you had a separate registry for the shower then I wouldn’t give you anything off your wedding registry, but I’d still be giving cash on the day.

    Post # 33
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We only give one gift here, unless there are multiple showers (kitchen, lingerie, etc.) You only bring a gift to the wedding if you didn’t go/send one to the shower. And cash gifts are practically unheard of here.

    Post # 34
    2285 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    Bridal shower = registry

    Bachelorette party = lingerie, sex toys, perfume, etc…

    I’m thinking that our guests will only get us either a shower gift or a wedding gift although I think it is suppose to be both.

    Post # 35
    13838 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve never been under the impression if you bring a gift to a shower, you don’t to the wedding.  In my circle, you always bring gifts to both…

    Post # 36
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Where I’m from, you bring a physical gift to the shower and monetary gift and card to the wedding. We usually don’t give gifts for the bachelorette party, the party is a gift from the bridesmaids. 

    Post # 38
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I can’t seem to get a clear answer on what the tradition is here. I’ve heard people bring gifts to both, but tend to spend less that way for each. So if you wanted to spend around $100 you might spend 50/50 on the shower vs wedding gift. I decided to have a ‘stock the bar’ bridal shower because I felt weird asking for gifts. Not that it’s asking, but it’s obviously implied with a bridal shower. Plus we are having a Destination Wedding so I wasn’t even going to register until people started asking me to.

    Post # 39
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Shower = things to help set up the home as a couple

    Wedding = money and/or more of the same

    Bachelorette = party time. Sometimes people do lingerie or naughty gifts here, butt not always.

    According to traditional etiquette, you shouldn’t register for things that don’t “stand the test of time”. So things like makeup (which I never hear of registering for) and electronics (outside of kitchen appliances) are out. Modern brides are starting to register for things like iHomes, etc, but I’m afraid makeup is out in left field.

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