(Closed) If u had max 20 guests at your wedding, would u still do the whole dance scene?

posted 9 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i think it’s fine to still have people dance πŸ™‚ at the very least i would still do the traditional dances with that few people (father daughter, mother son, first dance)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re having around that many people, too, and I know that dancing isn’t going to be a hit with any of them, so we’re not planning on it. We’ll have music and everything (iPod style) so if folks want to dance, go for it. But there’s no way I would dance with my dad and the fiancé’s mom can’t make it, so F/D M/S dances would be kind of pointless in our family. And as for a first dance, it’s taking all of my willpower to stand in front of others and say vows and be in a big ol’ wedding dress all day. Not that it’s big. But you know what I mean.

So no, no dancing for us. But if your friends ARE the dancing sort, I think having an area for them to do so would be nice, especially if it’s not huge so that it doesn’t look like an underfilled space even with all of the folks dancing.

And I agree with  @Jacqui90: in saying that you should do the “traditional” dances if it’s something that you want to do. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’d probably say no, it would be awkward unless everyone was dancing and it doesn’t sound like that’s going to happen. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m having about 35 and we won’t be doing dancing. I’ve organised outdoor games instead. Most of my guests are older and wouldn’t be comfortable dancing.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@NekoBride:  Well, I really think that the F/D dance is about the two of you and it doesn’t necessarily need to be a “performance”. If we were to do any of the traditional dances, we would untraditionally just slip them in throughout the night.

For example, if I were in your place and I really wanted the F/D dance, I would try to find a moment with him and have your dance while everyone else is busy talking and having a good time. If people notice that you’re dancing, that’s one thing. But it’s different from announcing, “Yo, we’re going to get our dance on, please come stare at us like we’re fish in a bowl.” 

There’s nothing that says you have to follow any “normally done” conventions. Not every “normal” thing works for everybody. So if the whole “watch me watch me” thing doesn’t suit you, then nix it. Opt for a more private moment with your dad, instead. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@NekoBride:  depending on how long between dinner and when the guests would have last eaten, but if you aren’t doing other dancing i would do the special dances before dinner πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The Blue Mountains are beautiful! What type of facility is your reception in? With your size crowd, I’m guessing it’s not in a ballroom/banquet room with a designated dance floor? If it’s in a private room in a restaurant or something like that, you may just want to leave a little room clear to allow for dancing, so that you and your Fiance can do a first dance if you want and so that other people can dance if they’re moved to do so, but without there being an official dance floor that will be conspicuous if it’s empty. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had about 24 guests. We did the first dance and mother/father dance and that was it. It was perfect for us for that size and many older guests.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I recently went to a wedding with 120 guests and there were just 10 people on the dance floor. But you know what, it was fun!

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