(Closed) If we can’t get jobs by June 1st we’re going to cancel the wedding. So depressed

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mandigrl04:  (hugs) I’m so sorry.  I went through something similar.  We were doing great financially then everything went downhill.  I actually support the both of us right now, but I can only do so much.  FI was laid off almost a week after he propose in 2010.  He hasn’t found a solid job since.  It’s really put a damper on things, but it will work out sooner or later.  I understand the roller coaster emotions you must be feeling right now.  I wish you two the best of luck.

Post # 4
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1310 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m so sorry. It’s such a tough time out there. Getting better I think (I hope) but still impossible for so many young people.

What is your experience in? I work in customer service and it stinks and the hours stink worse but it pays a living wage. There are very few barriers to entry.

Maybe consider getting certified in a specific tech program? Like getting Sun certified for java or something? A lot of companies don’t care if you don’t have a 4 year tech degree as long as you have the certificate.

ETA: don’t feel too bad about Michigan. California is the true black hole of unemployment, 20% plus in the Riverside metro.

Post # 5
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t have any words of wisdom but I just wanted to wish you luck, I really hope something comes along for you guys πŸ™ I’ve just finished my BA and I struggled to find anything for ages, now I have a full time job but it’s not relevant to what I want to now so I need to do my masters and PhD to get to where I want to be, and that required funding which requires a better job and it goes on and on and on…

Ill keep my fingers crossed for you, it’s a horrible feeling πŸ™

Post # 7
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7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh, I’m so sorry! It is a horrible time to have a 4 year degree these days. 

Is there anyway you guys could tone down the wedding and do somethign simple until you have money? Or is the point of the money so you have money to afford housing together, as you are waiting till marriage to move in?

Also, please join us at the ** Job Support thread** at the top of the career pages! 

Post # 8
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mandigrl04:  It is a horrible situation – both my Fiance and I graduated at the same time, he has a job in the field he wants to be in but at the bottom of the ladder, and I won’t get anywhere near my field until at least after my masters. It makes you feel like all your work was worth nothing πŸ™

Post # 9
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely understand where you are coming from.  We also live in Michigan and Fiance has had a TERRIBLE time finding a job.  Its really hard, frustrating and disheartening.  He’s been looking for 1.5 years and has a Bachelors and Masters.  Good luck and hug!

Post # 10
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2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mandigrl04:  Are you in a city with a university? This may not interest you, but I also hold a Bachelors in psych and while I was amping up my resume for graduate school, I took a lab manager position in a psychology clinic doing research on anxiety patients. I make about $25,000, which isn’t amazing but is enough to get by as we’ve prepped for the move to graduate school. Now is a good time to check it out because labs will be looking to replace their outgoing managers.

Post # 12
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3261 posts
Sugar bee

@mandigrl04:  Where do you live in Michigan? What type of degree do you have? 

Post # 13
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2559 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@mandigrl04:  Good luck! Often these jobs aren’t listed for long publicly so I’d start by emailing professors individually and asking it there’s job opportunities for psych students for lab management or assistance. You could also evaluate their patient base as you look them up and evaluate their interests for patient groups you like. The psychology department also typically has job opportunities listed on their website, if it’s anything like my university.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

PS – these are jobs that are typically geared towards younger people working their way up, so it may actually work in your favor that you’re in te process of higher education an would be leaving eventually.

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