(Closed) if we have dancing my future in-laws won't come.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 76
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1084 posts
Bumble bee

Yoir wedding is about you. Have your first dance. If they don’t come it is because they decided not too. That’s on them, not you.

Post # 77
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

chirpychappers:  glad you and your in-laws came to an understanding.  But, to be honest,  I don’t get it.  If there’s no dancing (as your in-laws wanted) and no alcohol (as you want), then what exactly happens at a Baptist reception in terms of entertainment for the guests?  

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

searock:  

Why should the OP keep her mouth shut about her own wedding? I don’t understand.

Post # 80
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Helper bee

What I learned from my wedding is that you can’t give into family members ridiculous demands. It’s your day, just do what you want and ignore their demands

Post # 81
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Worker bee

how about offering a compromise? They come for dinner and the speeches/cake cutting part of the reception, and then they leave before the first dance. If they dont accept that compromise, then they are being ridiculous and your better off without them there (but make sure Fiance is on the same page as you). 

Post # 82
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My step family left my reception half way through dinner because they don’t do the dancing thing either. 0 (that’s how many fucks I gave). I had another 480 guests and family who LOVED our band and DJ. And our first dance was magical which they also missed. Do what YOU want. You only get married once. They can leave after dinner to preserve their “reputation” (wtf? What’s their reasoning behind this anyway?)

good luck lady, and enjoy it! 

Post # 83
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

chirpychappers:  not my style (my family and friends  like to dance and drink), but I truly hope you have a wonderful wedding day and a beautiful reception.  And please do enjoy that first dance!

Post # 84
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

While they are welcome to their beliefs, they are also not welcome to force their beliefs on those who disagree. I won’t tell a  Jewish person to eat around bacon, I’ll make sure they have a meal they can eat – but they can’t tell me I can’t serve bacon to anyone. It’s basic respect.  Demanding you bow to their demands is disrespectful. 

I agree, ceremony, dinner/toasts, short break to say goodbye, then dance away.  They don’t have to dance, you don’t have to skip dancing. If that’s still a problem, they can do ceremony only.  

Are they going to add in problems with music and alcohol?  Which I’ve seen prohibited in Missouri Synod Baptist weddings. And the reception was predictably boring.

Post # 85
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m a vegetarian, and I can guarantee I am more offended by people eating meat than they are about dancing, but I would never miss someone’s reception because meat is being served, I just wouldn’t partake. Like a normal person when faced with something they find morally wrong. 

I am doing my wedding my way. I am having dancing, even though my family are strictly church of Christ and hate dancing. I am not serving alcohol, even though my fiancés family thinks this is a huge faux pax. I am not serving meat, which is pissing both families off. Zero fucks given. My day, my way. 

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