(Closed) If we're being honest…

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee

DH picked my rings out all on his own and I LOVE it. I trusted that he knew me well enough to pick something perfect out for me. And he did. But he’s always just been really good at picking out jewelry for me.

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

SO was, at first, pretty adament that it all be a surprise. Then he quickly realized that 1, he had no idea what he was doing 2, I am not only pretty particular (about everything–not a surprise) but also pretty knowledgeable about diamonds. After a short discussion, we decided to go shopping together. It was so fun! First, I realized what I thought I really wanted, I didn’t even like. Second, I found out SO has pretty good intuition and very classic taste. We agreed pretty easily! 

From here, I am equipping him with a lot of information/parameters and he will choose a specific diamond (best bang for his buck, hopefully) and get it set in the setting we decided on together or one very much like it. It’s kind of the best of both worlds as I know I’ll love it but I will not have seen any of it together until he actually proposes (when/where/how all his choice–he’s still adament on that, and I actually am excited about this particular surprise.)

If you think you’ll always have some twinge of regret, get what you like! It’s on your hand, afterall! 

Post # 78
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I picked out my own engagement ring and designed my wedding ring. I love my rings and DH had no idea what to get me…or the difference in any of the below…LOL. He wanted me to have something I would love so we went together to the store to pick it out.

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I told hubby I wanted a cushion, round or emerald stone. He picked out a beautiful stone in a knife-edge platinum setting as a place holder and then allowed me to pick out a Tacori setting of my dreams. If/when we have children, we will set another stone in the platinum setting. It truly was the best of both worlds.

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Post # 80
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Mrs.Mars: I think if my DH was totally left to his own devices he would have picked a marquis or pear shaped diamond for me- his mom has marquis and his brother bought a marquis one for my SIL. WHile pretty they are totally NOT my style and I made sure he knew that. ( One day when talking he was like what about my moms ring? *eyeroll* men.)

When we discuessed getting engaged I told him when it came to the ring to talk to XYZ friend. She knew what I liked ( super general like shape, ect-couple different things Im not picky so it was almost like ” DO NOT BUY MARQUIS- anything else and I would have been happy))

I was completely surprised and loved my ring 🙂

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Post # 81
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I agree that it really depends on the couple.<br />There really shouldn’t be any “rules” as we are all different.<br /><br />My fiance had asked me to create an album of rings that I like.<br />Not so he could get me the exact same one, but so he had a clear idea of the styles I liked best.<br /><br />Christmas eve he proposed and I couldn’t have asked for a better ring.<br />He only looked at my album once, and had obviously made notes on what they tended to look like because the ring he got me was perfect! :)<br /><br />I also agree that the meaning behind it is the most important.<br />He thought after proposing to me that I would just stop wearing the promise ring he gave me a year before, but I said I would always cherish that ring just as much as I do with my engagement ring. It is now on my other hand, and I still wear it everyday.

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Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 

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Mrs.Mars:  Inititially when the ring talk came up I tried to get him to propose with a CZ and just go ring shopping together so that he still got his surprise. He didn’t go for it. My regular style is plain solid colors and I knew if Fiance based it on my regular style he would have picked a solitaire with plain band. I loved a vintage ring with tons of filigree and detail. He did want to pick it out on his own and to be honest it was stressing me out so I just asked him if he wanted me to be honest if i did not like it. He said yes and asked if i had my heart set on one ring and one style and I said yes and he said ok show me a pic and then he confirmed my worries by telling me he would have picked the solitaire for me. He did try to throw me off a bit by telling me he would just get something that was the same style but then he did end up getting that ring

Post # 83
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Newbee

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Moorea12:  This is what happened to me!  I thought I wanted a princess cut, but after going in and looking at rings and stones, I realized that I actually wanted a round.  However, I still think 1ct looks pretty good. 😉

I’m still waiting for the proposal and ring, but I have to say that I’m so glad I went in and looked at rings.  My SO wanted me to look at every ring I could get my hands on and make sure that I had picked out my very favorite, as he doesn’t believe in upgrades/wants me to wear this exact ring for the rest of my life.

Over the course of shopping for rings, what I wanted has evolved.  It’s kind of funny, because he had said he would have picked out a Tiffany style round solitaire with a plain band for me, which I was initially against because I liked princess set with bead set stones on the band, but the more and more I have looked, I wouldn’t be opposed to that plain round solitaire he had initially thought to purchase (versus the cathedral with bead set that I have my heart set on).  So I’m sure I would have come to love whatever he picked out, but you never know, he could have wanted to pick out something that was completely not my taste.

Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Demetries

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LookingToElope:  that’s a good point, before I tried on rings I thought I wanted princess or cushion. After trying them on I liked round and ended up faking in love with a three-stone oval halo. It’s all what looks good on your finger and what you love. 

Post # 86
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I gave him a list of rings I liked and the reasons why, then he ultimately chose my ring by himself. It wasn’t what he wanted initially, but it worked out for the best since I got the element of surprise with a ring style I liked as well.

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Local Resort

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Mrs.Mars:  Surprise! he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you and thats fantastic! lol.  A conversation has to be had somewhere along the way to know you’re both on the same page.  There is nothing wrong with picking your own ring within your budget.  That’s exactly what I had to do.

And althought my Fiance agreed that he wasn’t going to pick out my ring, as I started the picking process he did throw in comments like “you don’t want that.. that’s not you.. oh now you want this one? ok now you’re just winging it”.  After about 3 months of hardcore looking I decided to design one.  When I showed him the mock up of what I wanted he turned over the credit card and said “oh yeah THATS you babe”.  He knows how fickle I am over jewelry!

Post # 88
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Blushing bee

Haha, I was one of those girls who while we were dating said “I have to have THIS ring” (a rose-gold setting, very small oval solitaire with a halo)…and I showed him, and he went TOTALLY in the opposite direction, and did his own thing because he didn’t like halo rings.

But honestly, it worked out for the best…I got a much better quality ring than I could have hoped for originally on his budget since he bought the ring un-used from a friend, and I am completely in love with the princess-cut white-gold style after all. It made me trust his judgment more because I know now he had in mind that he wanted to get me something bigger and better than what I dared to want for myself.

Post # 89
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Blushing bee

It’s not a shallow question at all! I love my bf dearly but dear god I hope he doesn’t try to pick out a ring on his own when and if he proposes!  

Post # 90
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I picked mine out the day after we got engaged. I honestly don’t think that choosing your own ring makes it any less sentimental, because HE still bought it for YOU and it is still a physical representation of his desire to commit to being with you for life. So, no, I don’t think it’s shallow at all 🙂

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