(Closed) If you aren’t ready to announce, how do you respond?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve actually had this happen twice only. Once by a friend/coworker and I flat out lied.

Often by another annoying co-worker who is sort of my superior. He loves to joke about me being pregnant, talk about inappropriate! I will retort right back, yeah, I’m 5 months pregnant with twins.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would just say, “Don’t worry.  We’ll tell you when it happens.”

I was majorly surprised with this pregnancy that nobody asked me if I was pregnant because I started showing almost immediately.  Turns out, a lot of people noticed my belly but didn’t want to say anything just in case I wasn’t pregnant.   So, I guess I’m lucky in that a lot of people kept their thoughts to themselves until I officially announced it.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think it would depend on who was asking.

A close friend or family member – I would probably tell them the truth but then tell them that we are keeping it hush-hush until X time so please don’t tell anyone else yet.

A random co-worker or something – I’d probably go the route of a non-answer like Mrs. Spring‘s “Don’t worry.  We’ll tell you when it happens.”

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Darling Husband had this exact situation yesterday – his friend asked if we were getting ready to start a family, and Darling Husband said “Not really, we’re waiting for things to settle down a bit first”. He thought it was going to be really funny next week when he then gets to tell this same friend that we are pregnant.

I’ve had a couple people comment on my virgin Bloody Mary’s, but I just tell them I’m the Dear Daughter. No one has had the guts to flat out ask yet.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I would just say you’ll know when we tell you or something along those lines.

To me that falls into the ‘not your business, don’t ask’ pot of questions.

I’ve heard too many horror stories of women being asked and they aren’t pregnant. If I’m not close with the woman, nless she’s literally giving birth in front of me, I don’t mention it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think I am going to say something like Mrs. Spring suggested.

But I will probably have a huge stupid grin on my face that will give it away.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a friend tell lots of people it will happen when it happens, until she was 13 weeks.

Friends and really clost fmaily, she waited till she had a dr appointment and heard the heart beat.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@panterapeach:  Tehehehehe.  🙂  I can totally picture you doing this!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

Just say no without entertaining a discussion. Hopefully by the time you do become pregnant people will know not to ask you. At that time, just lie too. 

My friends figured it out the day after I found out because I wasn’t drinking at a bachelorette. I was pretending to sip but they noticed I wasn’t finishing anything. I eventually had to pull one friend aside and tell her that yes I was and she needed to stop asking. I didn’t want to steal the bride’s night and I wasn’t ready to announce it. I will never ask another woman if she is pregnant before she announces it. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

“Why?  Do I look fat?”  It dodges the question without lying, and hopefully will make the rude person realize how rude they are.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would just say “We are working on it” it isn’t really a lie, and doesn’t give anything away … We literally were working on it, it was just a “baby under manufacturing process”.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

“If I was pregnant, I’d tell people when I was comfortable doing so.”

I haven’t announced my pregnancy yet outside of my in-laws and best friend, so I’m prepared. I’m not planning on telling anyone else until January.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have straight out lied. I’ve been asked 3 times and every time I say, “I wish”. Then people leave it alone.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@guitargirl: I love this one 🙂

So my Fiance actually asked a good friend when she ordered non-alcoholic drinks out at the party celebrate someone’s birthday (hers maybe?).  Actually, he teased, he didn’t ask – we all thought they weren’t going to have kids.  Anyhow, that was the night she was planning on announcing, only her hubby wasn’t there at the bar yet so she lied to my Fiance…then 15-20 minutes later announced when we went to sit at our table and she had to take off her jacket.  Then…we joked about how it’d be twins (her hubby is one, and my FI’s toast at their wedding was “may you have twins”).  Turned out, yes it was twins (they were suspicious at that point but hadn’t fully confirmed it so announced that part 2 weeks late).

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