Post # 17
I really like that response!!
I’m hoping people will be tactful enough not to say anything, but considering the fact that I’ve already been asked when DH and I have only expressed our desire to NOT have a family and I haven’t gained any weight, I just know I won’t be able to go 13 weeks without being asked.
Post # 18
The same thing happened with Wombat. People noticed, but didn’t say anything. If they had, I would’ve lied and said “no.”
Post # 19
I just laugh it off as if to say they are totally ridiculous for thinking so and then change the subject. But most people have been asking me when I plan to get pregnant rather than if I already am.
Post # 20
It was the day before my 12 week apt, and I didn’t want to tell people until I saw the heartbeat. My dentist knew I just miscarried so he assumed I was TTC (big reason why I didn’t want to tell people yet) then I saw him at a public event, he pointed to my belly which apparently was already bigger, I shook my head no. We had a normal conversation, I walked away, and then I ran out crying b/c I was fat. My poor hubby had to chase after me. And my poor dentist was so confused when a few months later I came in refusing x-rays because I was pregnant after I just told him I wasn’t.
But usually people wouldn’t ask if I was preggo, it would be “are you planning on kids soon.” and to that I would just say that we wanted to have some time to be married first.
Post # 21
hasn’t happened, but I say to say, “not yet”
Post # 22
I can’t lie. I’d say “Possibly, but it’s not confirmed. Not getting my hopes up yet.” My sister-in-law’s first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage before they could detect a heartbeat.
Post # 23
I’m not pregnant, but I would probably straight-up lie.
I have had three friends within the past year announce their pregnancies and then end up miscarrying. I think I would be too afraid to tell everyone until I was pretty far along just for that reason alone; it may sound silly, but that’s just how I feel.
Post # 24
I’ve just lied. Mostly the questions come from patients (I’m a physical therapist). Many of them know I’m fairly newly married so the natural question is usually “are you planning on having kids?” Or some people just ask “do you have kids?” To the first question I usually say “yes, sometime soon” to the second I just say “not yet” I’m 11 weeks pregnant now and most of my close friends and all of our families know. I’ve told other acquaintances along the way, and feel comfortable telling most people at this point in time. I am just waiting to tell my boss, because she’s not the most family supportive person, and so I can’t say anything about it while at work.
Post # 25
I suck at lying. I normally freeze up and it’s obvious. My Mom asked me if I was pregnant (on the phone) and I said something like … maybe. If you’re nice, maybe you can be a grandma one day. Lol, something sad like that!
My friend just left a comment on my FB randomly asking if I’m pregnant yet (she knew we were TTC) and it took me a few days to respond because I don’t want to lie but I don’t want to announce anything yet. I ended up throwing the question back at her and asking if she’s expecting. Sigh. I want to tell people already!
Post # 26
@moderndaisy:I usually lie.
But when the woman who schedules my requested days off asked when I said I had another doctor’s appointment I lied differently and said “I don’t know yet” and she said OK, I won’t ask again, and she smiled. It is actually really helpful because it means I don’t have trouble scheduling my appointments anymore. Also, I know she won’t tell because she is *very* superstitious and doesn’t want anyone to know about anyone’s pregnancy before 3 months.
Post # 27
I like what Mrs. Spring said that what I would say unless it was a close friend or family member and then I would just tell them.