(Closed) If you can’t afford a gift stay home!

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How do you feel about guests that can't afford to bring a gift?
    They should stay home. The couple will understand. : (17 votes)
    3 %
    They should at least bring a card. : (204 votes)
    41 %
    I invited them to celebrate my marriage not bring me gifts. : (276 votes)
    55 %
    other : (6 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 77
    37 posts
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think at least a card would be nice, as it makes writing a thank-you for attending card easier, plus it lets the couple know that your gift wasn’t lost or stolen.

    Post # 78
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I don’t think gifts are necessary but a thoughtfull card is a must. 


    I don’t think it’s much to do to show the person you care about them and are thankful that they want to include you in a very special occassion and in a lot of cases are willing to spend $100 and up on their meals and drinks (going on aust prices here)

    Post # 78
    1 posts
    • Wedding: November 2019

    by the time I have missed that day for work, bought my dress, shoes, and everything else needed I generally can’t afford a wedding gift… I honestly haven’t gotten married my self mostly because I can’t afford it. I am hoping people understand, considering it can cost over $100 for the outfit, not to mention he day of work being missed.. I do believe in bringing something, but it’s not affordable after the whole cost of getting ready for a wedding.

    Post # 79
    3452 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    thescarletibis:  I get it but I don’t. Your logic is you spend so much money on attending a wedding that you have none left for a gift correct? Is it absolutely necessary to spend $100 or more on an outfit? Could you not wear something you already own or grab something off the clearance racks? I’ve often found super cute dresses at Macy’s for under $20. Grab a cheap outfit, throw your hair in a nice ponytail, snatch up a $10-$50 gift and enjoy the celebration. 

    If its honestly not affordable then maybe it would be best to pass on the event altogether. But in this case you can afford to look good as a guest but not bring a gift? 

    Post # 80
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    It’s the thought that counts in my book. If someone can’t afford to buy a gift, I’d appreciate a nice card, especially if it’s something handmade (doesn’t take long and it’s cheap). Other than that, we’re not getting married to get gifts, so don’t see why anyone would throw their toys out the pram over that.

    Post # 81
    2146 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I have been to many wedding (mainly in my teens) with no gift… honestly if I invite someone I just want them to show up, thats the MAIN thing – no one want to be alone at their party because no one came, thats like social nightmare level stuff

    a card is nice and they start at 29p here so not expensive but its really easy to forget or not have time to run it to town so it really doesnt matter

    Post # 82
    2146 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    thescarletibis:  ive never spent more that £20 on a wedding outfit… are you buying all designer lable stuff?

    Post # 83
    2627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

    Love it when old threads resurface 🙂 

    I would never expect someone to bring a gift. We got gifts at our Engagement party, which we weren’t expecting at all (although I don’t know why as we always buy people something!)

    I do always take a gift to a Wedding though, or chip in with my parents if it is family. I don’t think there’s any excuse not to send a card considering you can order them online for next day delivery but I’m not exactly going to be checking off cards against the guest list! My Sister will forget, even though she’s a Bridesmaid. 

    I get what you’re saying thescarletibis:  – I like to buy new outfits for Weddings and they aren’t always cheap so, for me Weddings are expensive. However, I think it is different in the UK as we get SO MUCH notice compared to US Bees. I’ve had an invite in my hall for 3 months now and the Wedding isn’t until August; it’s given us plenty of time to budget accordingly 🙂

    If I got an invite 4-6 weeks before, I’d panic about the money side of things for sure!

    Post # 85
    3051 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Well, our initial wedding ceremony is just close family and I would never expect one of them to decline coming due to not bringing a gift. 

    Even for our second ceremony that may have tons of people, I wouldn’t expect people not to come if they didn’t have the means to get a gift. 

    We appreciate anyone taking the time to gift us on any occasion. However, we never expect anything of anyone except just having a good time with them. Someone’s presence is more than enough of a gift to me.

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