- alianora
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
I think at least a card would be nice, as it makes writing a thank-you for attending card easier, plus it lets the couple know that your gift wasn’t lost or stolen.
I think at least a card would be nice, as it makes writing a thank-you for attending card easier, plus it lets the couple know that your gift wasn’t lost or stolen.
I don’t think gifts are necessary but a thoughtfull card is a must.
I don’t think it’s much to do to show the person you care about them and are thankful that they want to include you in a very special occassion and in a lot of cases are willing to spend $100 and up on their meals and drinks (going on aust prices here)
by the time I have missed that day for work, bought my dress, shoes, and everything else needed I generally can’t afford a wedding gift… I honestly haven’t gotten married my self mostly because I can’t afford it. I am hoping people understand, considering it can cost over $100 for the outfit, not to mention he day of work being missed.. I do believe in bringing something, but it’s not affordable after the whole cost of getting ready for a wedding.
If its honestly not affordable then maybe it would be best to pass on the event altogether. But in this case you can afford to look good as a guest but not bring a gift?
It’s the thought that counts in my book. If someone can’t afford to buy a gift, I’d appreciate a nice card, especially if it’s something handmade (doesn’t take long and it’s cheap). Other than that, we’re not getting married to get gifts, so don’t see why anyone would throw their toys out the pram over that.
I have been to many wedding (mainly in my teens) with no gift… honestly if I invite someone I just want them to show up, thats the MAIN thing – no one want to be alone at their party because no one came, thats like social nightmare level stuff
a card is nice and they start at 29p here so not expensive but its really easy to forget or not have time to run it to town so it really doesnt matter
Love it when old threads resurface 🙂
I would never expect someone to bring a gift. We got gifts at our Engagement party, which we weren’t expecting at all (although I don’t know why as we always buy people something!)
I do always take a gift to a Wedding though, or chip in with my parents if it is family. I don’t think there’s any excuse not to send a card considering you can order them online for next day delivery but I’m not exactly going to be checking off cards against the guest list! My Sister will forget, even though she’s a Bridesmaid.
I get what you’re saying
If I got an invite 4-6 weeks before, I’d panic about the money side of things for sure!
Well, our initial wedding ceremony is just close family and I would never expect one of them to decline coming due to not bringing a gift.
Even for our second ceremony that may have tons of people, I wouldn’t expect people not to come if they didn’t have the means to get a gift.
We appreciate anyone taking the time to gift us on any occasion. However, we never expect anything of anyone except just having a good time with them. Someone’s presence is more than enough of a gift to me.
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