Post # 1
This is sort of random but I have been wondering what people though about this.
a ring, often a diamond, given by a man to his fiancée at the timeof their engagement as a token of their betrothal. ”
An engagement ring is to ask a woman to marry her before the wedding… so if you get a different ring afterwards it’s not really an engagement ring. I mean, it looks like an engagement ring but your already married.
Im not against upgrading/changing, but I feel funny when people still refer to it as an e-ring if it’s completely different.
Post # 3
Fiance and I have talked about this…in my opinion, and not to say anything about anyone else, this is purely MY opinion about MY life and has NO influence or judgment on ANYONE ELSE’S LIFE…I would never upgrade. If I wanted to, Fiance has said that would make him feel as though I was telling him he wasn’t good enough. An engagement ring is a symbol, and we believe that getting a new one would change the meaning and make it no longer an engagement ring.
I do think that if you don’t like your ring you should change it, but not like upgrading it a year later.
Post # 4
Probably not, but does it really matter?
Post # 5
@teabiscuit: I would still consider it an engagement ring if it still contained some element of the original ring, like the original setting/stone. I also consider it an ering if its replacing a lost/stolen/broken ring. Unless the woman has a couple that she is rotating, I consider it an ering. If she decides to rotate rings than I would only consider one of them the ering. I think its an ering because it symbolizes the love between the couple and their commitment to eachother. Love changes over time, so I don’t see why the ring symbolizing it can’t change with the love. Personally, I plan on keeping my original ering and not upgrading it. But I don’t judge those who want something bigger or in a different style.
Post # 6
I figure it’s still an engagement ring, but I haven’t ever given any thought to this. I’m not planning on upgrading ever, but I’d never feel that someone who did upgrade had any less of an “engagement” ring than I do.
Post # 7
I agree with what @mirabell35:
said. This is just my opinion (and the one my Fiance happens to share, as well), but I am not a fan of upgrading. The ring is a symbol of him asking to marry me, it has a lot of sentimental value. The center stone is the diamond from my mom’s engagement ring from my dad, and that means the world to me. I feel that if I changed the ring, it wouldn’t feel the same.
I will also be honest…I did go with him to pick out. I showed him a few examples of rings that I liked, and he went from there. I did have quite a bit of say in my ring, so that could also be a reason that I’m not a fan of upgrading.
My Fiance and I are also religious. I also feel that our wedding bands (and I know this is slightly different) that we’ll exchange those days are the ones that will have been blessed in the church, so those are the ones I want to wear forever.
Now, if you would lose your rings, that would be different. I think I would still try to get the exact same ring, though.
Post # 8
If it symbolizes your engagement, then it’s an engagement ring.
Post # 9
Many people upgrade their rings, and I don’t think that makes them any less special. It is still a symbol of commitment (IMO). People can recommit to each other as many times as they want (think about people who renew their vows). So, is it an e-ring in the truest sense of the word? No, but I don’t think that really matters. The fact that it is a symbol of commitment is what is most important to me, and that can be given at any point. Besides that, it wouldn’t really be feasible to explain to everyone that it isn’t really your e-ring it is an upgrade/anniversary ring/etc.
I’ve had two e-rings, and I lost my second one so we are in the process of replacing it (which will be ring 3). I’ve known many people IRL in similar situations, and now I’ve read about many on the Bee. I thought I was crazy before joining the Bee, but my DH will repropose when we find my new ring (not in the sense of “will you marry me”, but more “will you continue to spend your life with me”). He has done this before, and I absolutely love it. I like the chance to recommit and feel that special feeling/connection again. I think it is very similar to renewing your vows. I realize not everyone agrees with me or wants to upgrade/change rings, but I certainly don’t think it is unreasonable to call the new ring an e-ring. Perhaps it doesn’t represent two people being engaged to be married, but it could represent them remaining engaged in the marriage and their committment to one another.
To me, this seems to be along the lines of people who don’t think gemstones can be e-rings. I don’t think there is any limitation on what an e-ring can be because it represents something so personal.
Post # 10
Interesting question! I’d say it depends on the person. I never had an ering, but am getting a ring that looks like an ering for my anniversary. I won’t call it my ering, because it has nothing to do with our engagement, I’ll call it my anniversary ring.
If you’re upgrading from an original ering, eh, I’d probably still call that an ering because it’s replacing the original and still symbolizes the same thing. Like, one of my girlfriends is currently wearing her mother’s ering (from a failed previous marriage). If/when she and her Fiance can afford to buy her own ring, that will become her engagement ring even though it wasn’t what she used when first engaged.
But in real life, do people ever talk about what their rings are for?! Maybe this is the kind of topic confined to us crazy sparkle-stalkers lol, I doubt it’d ever come up outside a jewellery board!
Post # 11
I like this response better than mine, well said!
Post # 12
My husband doesnt care if I upgrade or not as long as I am happy. He upgraded my .55ct princess to a 1.02ct princess on my bithday in March but it was for our 15th anniversary. We got such a great deal. I am in the middle of saving to have it placed in a halo setting within the next year and he doesnt care as long as it makes me happy. Ask your hubby if he cares or not…most dont…well the husbands of my friends dont and alot have upgraded or changed settings.
Good luck if you want to and if you dont that is your choice too 🙂
Post # 13
Well it’s not the “original” ering, but it’s still the ring that symbolizes his asking you to be his wife. So, yes.
Post # 14
no judgement on it what so ever guys, I just enjoy brain food and overthinking everything :p.
Why don’t people think other stones are e-rings? The diamond is a fairly recent thing and was due to a DeBeers campaign and monopoly.
Post # 15
“Many people upgrade their rings, and I don’t think that makes them any less special” i totally agree….but also, in MY PERSONAL OPINION switching a stone for a bigger one, sort of diminishes the sentimental value of the stone that your SO or husband bought for you. I completely understand that when you get married you don´t always have tons of money to spend on a ring, and maybe you´re a big bling kind of girl and have always dreamed of having a huge diamond or gemstone ring….but trading in the stone to get a bigger one—-that in MY OPINION, is like dismissing all sentimental value…because every stone is unique and different…irreplaceable really….i say….if you want a different, bigger ring….AT LEAST integrate your original stone into the new ring….that way you never part with it…..
or maybe i´m just really sentimental….
Post # 16
I totally respect your opinion and agree with you that some ppl are very attached to their ring for the memory factor. Honestly it is just a ring to me and my husband the big memory for us is our vows and our 15 years together. He wants me to be happy so he honestly doesnt care if I upgrade or not. I am def a big bling type of girl and now that we both have great jobs we can afford to do it and ‘when the wife is happy everyones happy’ lolol