(Closed) if you change/upgrade your e-ring is it still an e-ring?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: If you change or upgrde your e-ring is it still an e-ring?

    no

    yes

    unsure

  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @GelaMac:  So true! 

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    at the end of the day…who cares?

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think anyone who would upgrade their ring would still call it an e-ring. I also don’t think they would care at all. 

    Post # 20
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I never originally had an ering for various reasons. I have two new “ering style rings” since our wedding. Both changes have been partly due to allergies, comfort and stylistic reasons. I generally just call them my “wedding rings/set” but if I am identifying the centre stone ring as separate from the bands I will call it an “ering” just for ease rather than saying “the ring I got later after we were married as I opted out of an ering before we got married but it looks like an ering so I would not want you to think it was” and I will not correct people either. My  “wedding rings” are not the originals either. 

    My rings are still sentimental to me in the sense they honour my marriage and represent that bond to the rest of the world. To me, and my husband, it does not matter that they have been changed. They are present with me as I am experiencing and living my life and marriage, and that is enough for me. Indeed, maybe I should just call it my “marriage set”!

    To me it is actually living my marriage with my husband, and the memories we create, that matter, not what ring is or isn’t on my finger.

    Oh, and my husband has “reproposed” in the lines of recommitting or again verbalising our vows to me with my new rings each time, so they have new memories.

    By the way, no one has ever asked if my ring was an “ering” or not in real life anyway.

    Post # 21
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It’s still a e-ring in terms of sybolism, but not *the* e-ring by definition imo.  As of right now, I can’t imagine ever upgrading or even wanting to upgrade my ering and having a calling a different ring my ering.  But who knows, that might change in the future.

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @GelaMac:  I agree. It’s just a piece of jewelry to me, and I prefer it to be exactly what I want if possible. That wasn’t possible when we got engaged, but it is now. Our relationship is what is sentimental and important to me. Changing the ring doesn’t change that, and I still think it is an e-ring because it is still symbolic.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    For me, “upgrading” or changing the ring would diminish the sentimental value of it, even in the case where the first one got lost or damaged.  Not saying I wouldn’t still call it my e-ring, but I would definitely feel sad about THE e-ring being gone for whatever reason. I’m not a person would would change the ring voluntarily.

    That said, I know women who rotate through a few wedding sets (including one who’s worn through four or five rings over the course of a 35 year marriage- she’s my friend’s mom, and I don’t know what those women in that family do to their rings, but they wear through them SO FAST.  They’ve tried all kinds of metals- 18k, 14k, palladium, platinum, nothing lasts.  My friend has already worn through her high school class ring twice, and she’s only had it for 10 years).  They just aren’t sentimental like I am. 

    I think it’s a to each her own thing.  Whatever makes you happy.

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

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    @teabiscuit:  This would be a good thread for a poll. 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

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    @obsessivebee:  do it I think so too 🙂

    Post # 27
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I say yes. Just like if you lost your wedding band (which I did.) The new band is still used as my wedding band. It is not THE band I got married with but that is what it symbolizes.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Well I would consider a ring on a left ring finger part of a wedding set–if it’s not a band, it’s probably an engagement ring.  I don’t care if it’s an upgrade, if it’s part of a rotation–if a woman is wearing a ring and calls it her engagement ring, then it’s an engagement ring.

    Me–if I replaced my current ring for any reason or got another to change things up–I would still call it an engagement ring–I’d have a strong sentimental feeling towards the original but any further incarnations would inherit the title I bestowed upon them.

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    This is interesting, I’ve never thought about it! My “e-ring” has been changed multiple times so I suppose this applies to me. However, after I got married, I started referring to both of my rings as my wedding rings, as to me, the set together symbolizes my marriage.

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Personally, for me, no, it isnt. For me the ring he proposed with is the e-ring, but I’m sentimental that way. A replaceent stone would not be THE one so I would never, ever up grade. If it was lost or damaged then the replacement would be an e-ring still but I wouldnt be as attached to it. To each their own but I just wouldnt feel the same about a different ring/stone.

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it is.

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